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    Posted: Dec 09 2013 at 7:34am
Okay, so I've been back and forth with my ex for about three years. Just recently after a bad argument, we broke up again. So, last night we were On the phone trying to figure out what we could do differently. He suggested that we should work on things separately or just be friends. I don't think two people who are/were in love can be friends. I don't want to be friends with him, but I also want us to last. He said that he'll work on some things as well and hopefully by the new year things will work out better. He has lied to me in the past, but we got thru it. We always come back to eachother What do you guys think about this break? Is this just an excuse to not be with me or has this worked for anyone?
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If he is a liar .. you can never trust what he says. The foundation of the relationship poor.

Aside from that .. I think what he is saying is that he wants to break it off with you .. he is just trying to bring you down gently with the 'friends' thingy.

Do not be so NEEDY for him ... this is the surest way for him to go away.

I think you should avoid his emails and start dating other guys.

Move on .. he is trying to dump you .. so you need to dump him first.
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a lot of the times "break" means "break up".. Another way for him to say, he is looking elsewhere and trying to move on.. Time to cut him loose and work on yourself.. Cease contact with him.



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leave him alone
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so gLAD I am singleLOLLOLLOL
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I tried that lets be friends(lets have sex only) bs...it never works.. cuz face it sweetie that's what it always means.. then when he get into it with his next chic he can hit u up...hell Naw u ain't a back up chic.

my fiance wanted a break but not for that reason when u in a relationship you suppose to stick it through good or bad..how the hell u gon time out?

breaking up and gettin back together all the time isn't a good sign.

and why the hell he callin the shots.. what you say goes. jus like trina say "these Brothas b ACTIN up and these hoes b lettin em"

not callin u a ho at all sweetie but in the song shes basically sayin. why women give men so much power over them and other nonsense..

u deserve more than a sometimey man.

its your decision but it doesn't seem like he wants you. he's letting you.down gently...he don't need time or none of that bs..
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based on my experiences if a man lies to you in the past they will in the present...they just come up with better lies...
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my fiance wanted to break for financial reasons..he felt he wasn't giving me enuff..but I told him if we break its over..ain't no time out in a marriage..how we gonna make it....he called me soon as the sun came up sayin he won't ever ask me that again..

u suppose to compromise in relationships but know when to put your foot down or let it go. Your gutt feeling is telling u somethin u don't wanna hear but its right.

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Let that dude go....give him what he wants. To be single...sounds to me he don't really wanna try, but you do...But let that guy do him and u need to find urself or anotha before u get ur heart crushed for having ur hopes up high


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Thanks for the advice ladies! It helps. I'm still going on his twitter which sucks bc I keep finding out stuff. I thought that since he always came back (3 years now) that he was sincere. I thought that if we worked on in apart things would be differently, but now I'm thinking I was always just a side/option girl for him. I FEEL SO STUPID FOR GIVING SO MUCH OF MYSELF TO SOMEONE WHO DOESNT/NEVER LOVED ME. It hurtsSo, based off this I feel like I should text him & tell him that I finally get that he was just trying to break up with me the cowardly way. But that won't help so I'm going cold turkey. I hope I can.

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