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    Posted: Jul 13 2014 at 11:54pm
Jose's thread reminded me that I wanted to ask y'all/talk(?) about this.


so on my FB a friend of mine (who is positive) tole a story that basically said he was going out on a date with this guy and decided to be up front about his status before the date.  He said the guy kinda freaked out, called off the date and gave him a "we can be friends" talk.   He was hurt and that sucks but what got me was the folks blaming the guy. 

I understand being supportive of my friend but I didn't think anything bad of the guy because he ain't want a physical relationship because of my friends status.  Not everybody wants to take that risk.  I simply tole my friend that i'm sorry for his hurt but to continue being upfront. I think most of the folks who commented condemning the guy would not knowingly date a person who is positive.

So I guess my question is ...hell...I don't know what my question is but what do you guys think?


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seems like gay guys, especially the positive ones, like to shame other guys for not wanting to sleep with them.  i have seen that attitude a lot across the net.  it's very backwards.

also, undetectable is the new negative.


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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote DiorShowGirl Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 13 2014 at 11:57pm
no offense but it was a first date for both right? was that other guy expecting "something" on the first date to call it off?

that is a damn shame for ur friend...i personally think if he is starting out with someone new and if it takes off from there, then tell that other person so not to waste either's time....good he was up front and all, but not on the first date if that is all it is going to be ..a date and no expectations of it afterwards...if there is, then of course tell the other person...
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yup it was to be a first date.  my friend is looking to settle down or a monogamous relationship. 


oh and not to shame or shade my friend but...it usually doesn't take long before his relationships get physical.  That actually goes for all my gay male friends.

of course i'm not saying all gay men are fast in the sack.


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he shouldn't be that bent out of shape about it...a lot of people are willing to be in a mixed status relationship.  i have a straight male friend that did it for a female.
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I think the "date" did what he decided was best for him. 


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They have websites for positive people.. he'll have better luck with that
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^^^^^i'll tell him to look into that.  My buddies seem to love Grindr and those types of things tho.
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i've thought of my question.  I guess my question is how are you gonna shame someone for not wanting to deal with your health situation?  I mean...it ain't like it's not a serious thing.  Cause I know good and dang well I personally could not date a man that I knew was positive. *shrugs*
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it's normal to not want a potentially fatal disease

Be real.




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