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Naturalchick30 
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 Posted: Jan 12 2013 at 6:33am |
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hey hey hey! HOME DEPOT = HOME IMPROVEMENT! i tain't got nothin bad to say bout that mam. sorry!!!! |
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Posted: Jan 12 2013 at 9:19am |
Hmmm so her friends want her broke and manless? Are they BHMers? 
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Posted: Jan 12 2013 at 9:41am |
Sounds like a budget to me.
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Posted: Jan 12 2013 at 12:28pm |
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People in a relationship should discuss their financial expectations/goals and then do whatever they need to do to meet those expectations/goals, up to and including one person being "in control" as long as it doesn't cross the line to abuse.
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Posted: Jan 12 2013 at 12:38pm |
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I agree with Khivey that she needs to learn some money management skills. Maybe a course, book or something. She definitely needs to get herself in control , so that she can take care of herself. He may not always be there and she needs to feel like a adult.
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Posted: Jan 12 2013 at 12:49pm |
yes. it's called a budget. we both get weekly 'allowances', so do the kids. we pay ourselves just like we pay the bills. he gets x amount, i get x amount. he prefers to carry cash because he needs to actually see what he is spending, whereas, i prefer to use a debit card because i will spend cash like its monopoly money. things that we do together go out of our 'household' funds though, so i pretty much drag him wherever i go so that it counts as an 'outing' lol. we don't discuss what we spend our individual money on, but we will discuss purchases over a certain amount. i do all of the shopping because my husband is like a child. he will buy 50 air fresheners because "they're so cheap at only a dollar"  .
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Posted: Jan 12 2013 at 12:51pm |
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those heartland (hartland?) magazines are my husband's weakness though. every strange ass gadget that they can think of is in that mag and i know he has most of them.
i will admt that i sure do love an infomercial.
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Posted: Jan 12 2013 at 12:51pm |
dreamz wrote:
yes. it's called a budget.
we both get weekly 'allowances', so do the kids. we pay ourselves just like we pay the bills.
he gets x amount, i get x amount. he prefers to carry cash because he needs to actually see what he is spending, whereas, i prefer to use a debit card because i will spend cash like its monopoly money. things that we do together go out of our 'household' funds though, so i pretty much drag him wherever i go so that it counts as an 'outing' lol.
we don't discuss what we spend our individual money on, but we will discuss purchases over a certain amount. i do all of the shopping because my husband is like a child. he will buy 50 air fresheners because "they're so cheap at only a dollar".
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We do something similar. DH will buy 100x light bulbs because they are on sale.
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Posted: Jan 12 2013 at 1:09pm |
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we only discuss bills, vacations, furniture, and savings
idc what he does with the rest
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Posted: Jan 12 2013 at 2:51pm |
In my mind an Ideal marriage will have at least one spouse who is financially responsible. Someone has to step up and say, "hey we need to sacrifice, and save for our futue. so we can have some security and an adequate retirement portfolio." If this is what they have to do to stay on track and protect their investments, that's what they should do. Her friends may not be as smart financially, or... it doesn't matter, it sounds like they made the right decsion for their situation.
Edited by jayjaynonie - Jan 12 2013 at 2:52pm
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