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    Posted: Jan 11 2013 at 4:33pm
Okay,
Kelly has a problem with money and is a compulsive shopper. She can't have cash because she feels as if she has to spend it.
 
This has been a problem between her and the dh. They have discussed on various occasions.
 
He is a saver more than a spender. They put their money in one joint account, both work.
 
He had asked her to slow down but she says it's her money although he considers it their money. He would like to save up and have a cushion in case something happends in the future.
 
So, he asked for her debit cards and credit cards and now he gives her a weekly allownece of money to spend. She has admitted that she feels more in control and was happy til she told her friends.
 
Basically, her friends gave her the " i wish a nucca would" speak and how they wouldn't allow any man to dictate their finances and would never ask a man for a weekly allowance.
 
And, that since it is her money too.. She should most def have access to it at all times..
 
Thoughts ?? Would you let you s/o (living together) or dh control the finances ? Or just do your thing because it is your dinero?
 
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 11 2013 at 4:34pm
If he isn't beating her then her friends have nothing to say about their relationship. 
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 11 2013 at 4:35pm
if i had the problem she seems to have and he was better with money, then yes...i'd be ok with that set up...
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 11 2013 at 4:35pm
People in a relationship should discuss their financial expectations/goals and then do whatever they need to do to meet those expectations/goals, up to and including one person being "in control" as long as it doesn't cross the line to abuse.


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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 11 2013 at 4:36pm
why she is she telling everybody her damn business?
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 11 2013 at 4:36pm
Stop telling your friends all your damn business. 
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 11 2013 at 4:37pm
Originally posted by Rumbera Rumbera wrote:

Kelly has a problem with money and is a compulsive shopper. She can't have cash because she feels as if she has to spend it.
 
 
And this is all I need to know.
 
 
Besides if she is fine with it, then her friends should mind their business.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 11 2013 at 4:37pm
I thought that was a common arrangement in marriages.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 11 2013 at 4:38pm
Yes, there are things she should keep private.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 11 2013 at 4:38pm
I think she should keep her friends out of her business if this is working for her household. She has the issue and her husband is trying to keep them on track to saving money. Maybe when she becomes more responsible with money she can have access again.
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