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grade a, huh

this reminds me of when my grandmother used to brag about her 100% gen-u-ine leather...LOL

It's like butter..sooo good. damn!
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Originally posted by kfoxx1998 kfoxx1998 wrote:

Originally posted by JustMe90 JustMe90 wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

at the end of the day, OP...it's mean to jeer at another person's pain, but it's too ratchet.  everyone's comments are coming from a place of personal, family, or friend experiences.  maybe someone can share a story about a situation like this blossoming into a happily ever after, closure filled relationship.  

it's too painful to lose someone like this so i guess you'll just have to let it end on your own terms down the road.

I've read a user who commented on the "happily ever after" occuring so yes, it adds to the hope.

There is not a day that goes by that I don't let my s/o how fuxked up his decision was. 
There is not a day goes by that I don't feel doubt and question how loyal he can be in the future.
I'm only hoping that will subside after he's shown me through consistency his ability to be a better man and vice versa, but rest assure. If it happens again. I'm out!


I know you are no longer seeking the wisdom of experience BUT the bolded is a very bad idea.  Beating him up about it is counterproductive.  It does not fit the idea of forgiveness.  Staying and continually beating him up about it is a recipe for disaster.  If he believes that you actually don't forgive him / don't trust him there is nothing to fight for and the temptation to self-sabotage will be strong. 

You need to let it go for your sake (healing) and his (redemption) or leave altogether. 
 
word...word...word...girl just save yourself the additional aggrevation...
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Originally posted by **Sk!TtLeS B** **Sk!TtLeS B** wrote:

Originally posted by JustMe90 JustMe90 wrote:

TYPO PERHAPS... typing from a smartphonE perhaps, and not caring to go back and take the caps off?

Or maybe because point blank stereotypically speaking Black women, like MYSELF are....



Dont try to throw in a "typo" when all of your posts before this have been free of them, and dont try to deflect. What did you mean by the comment?

You're interrupting my love affair with this steak that I'm having. Sheesh lady. I'm black, wtf?
My posts haven't been free of typos. I've tried numerous of times to edit some of them on BLACK hair media...lol the server is messed up on my end.
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Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

 
word...word...word...girl just save yourself the additional aggravation...


LOLI was just thinking that but then I decided that some other young woman might be reading this, struggling with decisions and in need of some good advice.  I want them to win but damn these stubborn ones cannot be helpedAngry
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Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by kfoxx1998 kfoxx1998 wrote:

Originally posted by JustMe90 JustMe90 wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

at the end of the day, OP...it's mean to jeer at another person's pain, but it's too ratchet.  everyone's comments are coming from a place of personal, family, or friend experiences.  maybe someone can share a story about a situation like this blossoming into a happily ever after, closure filled relationship.  

it's too painful to lose someone like this so i guess you'll just have to let it end on your own terms down the road.

I've read a user who commented on the "happily ever after" occuring so yes, it adds to the hope.

There is not a day that goes by that I don't let my s/o how fuxked up his decision was. 
There is not a day goes by that I don't feel doubt and question how loyal he can be in the future.
I'm only hoping that will subside after he's shown me through consistency his ability to be a better man and vice versa, but rest assure. If it happens again. I'm out!


I know you are no longer seeking the wisdom of experience BUT the bolded is a very bad idea.  Beating him up about it is counterproductive.  It does not fit the idea of forgiveness.  Staying and continually beating him up about it is a recipe for disaster.  If he believes that you actually don't forgive him / don't trust him there is nothing to fight for and the temptation to self-sabotage will be strong. 

You need to let it go for your sake (healing) and his (redemption) or leave altogether. 
 
word...word...word...girl just save yourself the additional aggrevation...

I'm trying. I really am.
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Yt ppl pee on our legs all day and then say its not raining racism.  We Don't Believe Them. 
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I'm racist against my own ppl. I look at my mom, my gma, aunts, uncles and cousins and hate them because we're Black. lml. 
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Originally posted by JustMe90 JustMe90 wrote:

Originally posted by **Sk!TtLeS B** **Sk!TtLeS B** wrote:

Originally posted by JustMe90 JustMe90 wrote:

TYPO PERHAPS... typing from a smartphonE perhaps, and not caring to go back and take the caps off?

Or maybe because point blank stereotypically speaking Black women, like MYSELF are....



Dont try to throw in a "typo" when all of your posts before this have been free of them, and dont try to deflect. What did you mean by the comment?

You're interrupting my love affair with this steak that I'm having. Sheesh lady. I'm black, wtf?
My posts haven't been free of typos. I've tried numerous of times to edit some of them on BLACK hair media...lol the server is messed up on my end.

What did you mean by the comment?

You're interrupting your own meal, I cant make you do anything. You obviously like the attention, I'm just giving it to you.

Also, what did you mean by the comment?
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To the op him doing it doesn't mean it won't continue or happen again when trust is broken its really hard to gain back. Good luck.
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I believe theres a quote in here from another thread where the OP has said she was white in the past 




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