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there's more..brb
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Originally posted by JustMe90 JustMe90 wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

So what does he have to do to prove anything besides keep his phone unlocked and give you all passwords?  what else besides having repeated conversations about it?



So I read that, but what I did I express to him? 

1. I let him see the myriad of emotions I felt. Anger, sadness...I punched him in the head. I cried. I let him see him how he made me feel and I broke up with him and cut all ties. 

2. He tracked me down at my mother's house, begged, cried, said sorry and all of that good stuff. Told me he'd change, he'd do this that and the third. Anything I wanted basically.

3. We spoke on what he needed to do to get me to trust him again. I told him I still wasnt ready to be back with him until I felt like he was sorry truly sorry and willing to work on this trust 1,000 percent. I repeated this over and over, he apologized over and over, on his knees...until I felt he was really sorry and really understood that if anything like this ever were to occur again I'd seriously be gone. No friendship, nothing.  I agreed to give him another chance. 

He was always good on communicating with me on his whereabouts so I couldn't ask for more.
I told him he has no privacy and he was fine with that. Cease all communication with her and if I felt like having him call her and say x,y and z he would do it.

4. He spoke about making a further commitment to me by moving in together, and being the sole provider. He wants to do it simply because he loves me. I feel as if there is no ulterior motive other than the fact.

5. Submit to STD testing, which was a given.




All jokes aside, not even trying to be funny...I'm pretty sure I've shared this story before on BHM...

But been thru this, set all these guidelines, wiped the slate clean, thought it was just a bump in the road to our happily ever after, and found out four months later that the same chick was pregnant... by him of course.

Fall for the okey-doke if you want to *Ye shrug*.

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Originally posted by ShadyLady ShadyLady wrote:

Originally posted by JustMe90 JustMe90 wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

So what does he have to do to prove anything besides keep his phone unlocked and give you all passwords?  what else besides having repeated conversations about it?



So I read that, but what I did I express to him? 

1. I let him see the myriad of emotions I felt. Anger, sadness...I punched him in the head. I cried. I let him see him how he made me feel and I broke up with him and cut all ties. 

2. He tracked me down at my mother's house, begged, cried, said sorry and all of that good stuff. Told me he'd change, he'd do this that and the third. Anything I wanted basically.

3. We spoke on what he needed to do to get me to trust him again. I told him I still wasnt ready to be back with him until I felt like he was sorry truly sorry and willing to work on this trust 1,000 percent. I repeated this over and over, he apologized over and over, on his knees...until I felt he was really sorry and really understood that if anything like this ever were to occur again I'd seriously be gone. No friendship, nothing.  I agreed to give him another chance. 

He was always good on communicating with me on his whereabouts so I couldn't ask for more.
I told him he has no privacy and he was fine with that. Cease all communication with her and if I felt like having him call her and say x,y and z he would do it.

4. He spoke about making a further commitment to me by moving in together, and being the sole provider. He wants to do it simply because he loves me. I feel as if there is no ulterior motive other than the fact.

5. Submit to STD testing, which was a given.




All jokes aside, not even trying to be funny...I'm pretty sure I've shared this story before on BHM...

But been thru this, set all these guidelines, wiped the slate clean, thought it was just a bump in the road to our happily ever after, and found out four months later that the same chick was pregnant... by him of course.

Fall for the okey-doke if you want to *Ye shrug*.

Well, everyone needs to live and learn. 
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The "implication" that I may or may not have you call her or call her myself is a great tip off on how/when to properly prepare the discussion.  Maybe that would have been better in the back pocket as a now or never type thing but its literally pointless as everyone has said. 

Hypothetically lets say I have some experience with taking that call and hypothetically lets say that I pretended I'd never heard of the dude.  Why would a female lie like that just because she had the keys to his car and he regularly gave her the best head she ever had in her life and she didn't want to be bothered with a man constantly in her area every damn day and the other chick's boyfriend was the perfect distracted companion with no strings?  She could be on some hoe sh*t and DGAF.

I'm not saying I know or don't know anything about doing that, IJSStern Smile


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kfoxx...that's why i think all this extra requirement, gogo gadget shyt is unnecessary and rarely, if ever works (from what i have seen and or experienced anyway).  not to mention creating annoying distractions in my otherwise fabulous day.  i don't have time for all that.

either you believe him when he says he will cut the foolywang out or you do not...


Edited by ThoughtCouture - Dec 10 2013 at 12:36pm
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Beautiful ladies of BHM !!!! Can I get the gist of what is going on, por favor?
 
This thread is way to long and ...
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Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

gogo gadget


LOLCry I'm not sure its possible for me to love you more but this right here... Heart
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none of those "points" interfere with what he has going on with his girlfriend

From your last thread you said it was more than one, so he's completely covered if you push the call thing, he'll just call a once in a blue moon side piece or one of them that ended it with him NOT his girlfriend

He's been living with you and he's just now going to start to bills?


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shadylady trolls are for fun

If I thought this was real I might dusted off the cape lol


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He was living with her since 6 weeks into the relationship? but since the cheating he's made a commitment to have her move in with him and pay all of the bills?   Not confusing at all. 
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