| JustMe90 wrote:|
Can I ask you guys a question?
A woman comes on here and asks an open and honest question. Yes, she may be seeking an honest opinion..she takes it with a grain of salt...like most of the bull in her life.... Why is it that most some women on here do not see and understand that she's coming to them as a woman? Not as someone who's looking to be bashed. Where is the humanity? The feminism? I applaud some of you...A message can be made loud and clear all the while being effective. It's all about delivery. It's not what you say, it's how you say it. A person can become defensive when he or she feel as if they are being attacked. So don't think that your advice has not been taken heed to...but some of the delivery I frowned upon. Your message was overshadowed by the dark tone of your approach. I would never offer advice in a way to belittle another. Thank you...ladies.
Okay, it is the next morning here in Europe and you are stil trying to defend yourself. Wow.
Annnnd you are asking .. yet another question? Duh. Okay.. I am going to give you an answer and likely you will flip out again..here goes.
- you presented your cheatin situation and I gave you my advice.
I said it in a normal calm way .. and I said it on a frustrated way.. but I don't know how else to SAY IT when you come back with some crap story about him paying your bills and giving you ANYTHING YOU want. Duh! What you should want is for him to take his narrow ass out of your bed!
THAT IS WHAT YOU SHOULD WANT but instead you just want to know he is willing to tell her off/ MONEY/gifts/let you move in for free rent with him ...for his cheatin ways. This ain't sh*t. Your actions are just another vieled form of PROSTITUTION girl.
The way I 'say' this .. has no bearing on the flippen message itself. Grow up. In fact, if you are waiting for the world or BHM to bow down and to say things 'in a way that you would like'.. well, good luck with that! (Read: Never gonna happen). People say things any way the heck they wanna say things. DUH!
You asked a question and you got an answer.
(And now we read he has a HISTORY of bad behavior because 40 days in you were writing us about women in his life? Ahhh So he has been a DOG that you have been forgiving/making excuses for from the begining? And ... you wrote that 'what to do when a man HITS YOU' thread'? Wow! Now we see what's really going on.)
You made your bed (literally and figuratively) so now you've lay in it.
I repeat .. your childish criteria for proof that this guy loves you is FAULTY. It is GROSSLY ... AT FAULT. If you want the relationship to last - if that is your goal - you've got to be a woman that he can respect. The only way he can respect you ... is if you yank a knot in his tail when he messes up.
If your goal is just to bleed this guy dry until your payday ends .. then just admit that you are whoring and be done with it.
But .... you can't have it both ways.
Open your eyes now before it is too late to get something real and lasting in your life because IF YOU LET HIM BUY HIS WAY OUT OF THIS situation - he will always cheat on you and eventually he will get bored with you (you are wayyyy too easy girl!!) and he will dump you. PERIOD. Of all the people that posted on this thread NOT ONE OF THEM thinks things with this cheatin man .. will work out.
Even if it does work out and you are with him for 40 more years... it will be 40 MORE YEARS OF sh*t that is for sure. I have seen it.
You have to understand THE WAY MEN THINK and the number 1 thing for men is SEX. You can't let men get away with cheatin. EVER. It will never come to a good end.
Btw - does HE KNOW that you cheated on HIM? Because that would be a WHOLE OTHER SITUATION. Hee hee! Men would like a (weak) woman to forgive his cheatin ways ... but for him to forgive his woman's cheatin? ... is a WHHHHOLE OTHER STORY. Just tell him ... and see what he says. :O
(Now you can call me names and flip out of you want now.. but I am not laying up with some loser, asking for help that you won't take and making all these MAJOR mistakes with men. You are.)
Edited by Printer_Ink - Dec 10 2013 at 4:56am