| Lea11 wrote:|
| Printer_Ink wrote:|
The ladies are all telling you the right thing.
Neveeeeer ask a man 'where this relationship is going' or anything like that. This would be the sane thing as saying 'I love you and want to have your babies'.
HE WILL BE GONE.
Second - 2 months is nothing ... it's not even real yet, but you should not ask a guy this kind of question if you have known him 2 years.
That guy should be begging YOU to know where things are headed.
Remember YOU ARE THE PRIZE. You don't chase him, ask them these questions or in any way let him know you are crazy about him and 'want more'.
Did you already sleep with him? Game over. The guy you want the most .. is the guy that has to WAIT the most - like months for sex ... else the game will be over too soon - and 2 months is too soon for sex.
If you want to BE someone special to him ... you have CONDUCT yourself like someone special instead of laying up with him .. just like any girl around the corner might do.
If he is not giving you the attention you want, (in your best Southern accent) kindly decline his advances until he straightens up. Your 'Dance Card' is FULL. Ahh let's see ... you are booked out fior t he next 2 weeks and DON'T CALL/TEXT him. He'll get the message.
If he does not call you again ... it was never real for him and he has moved on.
YOU = THE PRIZE so make him (any man) work for it.
I tell you .. the more you blow him off .. the more he will chase. Convesely .. the more available you are to him ... the more he will pull away and ultimately BE GONE.
So be unavailable ... most of the time.
Thank you for the advice.... I'm not the type of person to play mind games so that why I asked him.. he's has been claiming to be into me for years so I figured that after 2 mos he should know how he feels. Guess I was wrong.. no we haven't had sex yet I wasn't ready but I was considering it thats another reason why I ask.... even though I asked he's has been still texting me and today he told me he is worried about me and him.. but with the mood I'm in I dont really care. A male friend of mind said since he is now worried we should just both talk and lay our cards on the table. But I'm not in the mood to be around the guy right now
When I was young .. I thought the same thing. 'oh, I want to be honest .. I don't want to play games' etc... Alll crap babygirl!!!
I made the EXACT same mistakes when I was young but there was no internet until I was in my 30's ... so I had to learn THE HARD WAY.
Today.. there is a TON of information about dating men all free on the internet - just enter a query.
Why do you think it's called 'The Dating Game'? Because ... it's a game .. of sorts. It's kind of a 'dance' really. Do you know how to Salsa? The guy's left foot goes forward and your right foot goes back ... move your hips and the do the same on the left leg. But once your left goes forward and his goes forward ... the whole dance get messed up because you are stepping all over each others feet. :(
If this guy has liked you for years and you have NOT had sex yet ... the game is not over. :) hee hee!
Right now .. he is worried. Let him be worried that he has lost you. The longer he has NO CONTACT with you .. the more he will want you.
In the meantime - my advice is to download an ebook like 'Why men love bitches' IMMEDIATELY if not sooner and start reading. The title is only an eye catcher because you will not act like a bitch.
Noo that would be wrong - you will be just as sweet and as pretty as you always have been ONLY you will not be so available for him anymore. :) You will 'have plans' now and then .. even if it's just the day to redo your weave, braids, perms, manicure, pedicure ... whatever.
He will have to ... wait and then ask you again. :) (sly smile) This is the game ... the pursuit... it's in his DNA.
Please read the above book - though there are ZILLIONS of books like it. One book I first read in 1993 was called 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus'. WHAT AN EYE OPENER!!
I promise you .. if you read these kinds of books .. you will learn to understand how men think and you will land this fella and ... make him fall in love with you.
Whatever you do ..DO NO sit down with him and TELL HIM HOW YOU REALLY FEEL about him! No. Let HIM sit down and tell YOU how he really feels about YOU! Then you can tell him ... you have to think about it... you are not sure .. you need some time etc... It never pays for a guy to think you like HIM more than he likes You! It's like that messed salsa dance and it screws up the balance of power in the relationship.
Seriously, please do yourself this favor.
Edited by Printer_Ink - Feb 04 2014 at 3:23pm