Lmao, why are you trying to put a question like that on him?
Hun, isn't this two people dating? He ain't holding your hand like a parent to a child! He doesn't decide where you go, the both of you are individuals who decide the outcome of the relationship!
Anyway, I think you're putting your eggs in this one basket and that is not wise. Maybe you do not mean to, but what I'm feeling from your post is that you have dedicated yourself to this one lone guy when he himself has not done the same and there has been no official reason for you to keep yourself focused to this one guy.
I know you like him, but you two are not official. Do not behave official. Because you two are not official and yet you're making it clear you are PURSUING the official title, he is going to back away.
I do agree that guys are conditioned to chase when it comes to dating. Have your fun, hun! Let him chase you! It's fun for guys and it can be fun for you! But when you're trying to ask him where things are going, you're essentially pouring water on the fire he has for you. Live your life that shows that you are not waiting on him! Don't be silly and be TELLING him things like "hey, I'm gonna date other people to make you jealous!" because that just screams childishness and thirst.
Instead, be more unavailable. I want you to back away for now. Don't always
answer his calls. Take your time in responding to his texts. Don't be so readily available to a guy. Basically have your own life too and never let the presence of a male compromise the life you life. Of course you can hang out with him sometimes but let it be PLANNED. Not some "come over and let's chill" crap.
Tell yourself you are a beautiful woman who has a life to live and you'll be DAMNED if you spend any more of that glorious life waiting on a dude who clearly isn't waiting on you!
Besides, you two aren't official. You can go see other people!
Man, I won't even be mad if he texts you and you innocently reply that you're getting ready for a date and you'll talk to him later since your phone will be off.
Be confident in yourself, hun. Do not settle for the wait list on a relationship! I'm currently dating someone and he is head over heels for me because I have made sure not to compromise my identity and not to compromise my life over him. As a result, he is always chasing me and I give him enough love to reward him but make my presence a privilege he can't always access so he's always chasing to get it.
It sounds silly, but I honestly think it makes things far easier on YOURSELF.
When I was younger and far more naive, I'd invest soooo much time in dudes who clearly didn't plan on making that same investment in me. So they'd fall through and I'd be left feeling like sh*t because all that effort was for naught!
Now here I am doing far different with far more success by doing far less but enough to keep him captivated. And I REALLY like this guy but it feels good to be secure enough in myself to keep it passionate by playing it cool.
It's great you're being standoffish right now, it'd be idiotic to crawl right back to a guy who told you what he told you! You just keep it cool and live your life. He will likely try to check up on you and when you want, you can reply, but do remember that this is a guy who isn't anything official to you so have that boundary because he has not crossed that threshold into actual relationship territory.
Live your life!