| ThoughtCouture wrote:|
| SamoneLenior wrote:|
I thought friendzoned meant the person wants absolutely nothing sexually or romantically to do with you
if they still want to f ck but not date you, that doesn't mean you are in the friendzone
this is my understanding as well...
It's hard for a man to turn down convenient sex .... from ANYONE, friend, enemy, ex-wife ANYONE as long as she looks decent ... like she is not covered in boils. If she has a hole … he will want to fill it.
So to me .. being in the 'Friendzone' means you are just friends which means he is not interested in having a romantic relationship with you.
(Yes, he may or may not have sex with you - but that has NOTHING to do with having a relationship with you – so you would still be friends).
I think a lot of women don't understand the way men view sex.
For men ... sex is just an itch they've gotta scratch (and as often as possible!) – but that's it. Sex will have nothing to do with how he feels about you romantically. This is why men can get up .. leave and never look back. If they ONLY wanted sex .. they will be gone. So sex (outside of love) is the way a guy can DISTANCE himself from a girl.
On the other hand … sex for WOMEN makes her think he likes her romantically and that they will next start a relationship. So sex brings a woman .. CLOSER to a guy. Of course, when he walks away – she will be crushed.
Another reason a woman should not have sex with a guy for several months .. if she wants something real with him .. else he will just go boom boom and … then he will be gone.
They can’t help it. (Of course, there are exceptions … but in general do not go boom boom if you are really interested in him.)