| SN2BPHD wrote:|
No. This will only get your feelings hurt.
I think there is something between a man and a woman that is beyond the person being good looking or the fact that you both have so much in common as good friends .. so you might as well have sex and start a relationship.
This is true especially for men because the way you LOOK has a very high priority. This doesn't mean you have to look like a Movie Star .. you just have to LOOK the way he wants you to look to spark the pursuit.
That's another thing because .. if he does not have to PURSUE you so that he can 'win' you ... it ain't gonna work either. If you are friends - well, he's already got your attention so that part of the game is over. So .. what's he gonna do if you are caught and his main job is pursuit? Nothing. Let the guy do his job. So then his attention will go toward another girl and he will bring you around to .. meet her. UGH. :(
Maybe you can have sex ... as he might wanna plant his flag ... so to speak but typically thereafter the friendship is forever changed/over.
You just have to face the fact that there will be men in your life that are never gonna see you as more than a friend - no matter what you do or how great you are together.
If a guy meets you and becomes 'friendly' it is not gonna take long for HIM (not you) to make a play. If he does not do this ... it's not gonna happen the right way and in the end you will feel like a fool making the first move - because he will have to carefully extract himself from the situation.
A woman’s gender role is to make herself look attractive .. so that she can ATTRACT a guy. She might attract all the wrong ones .. but eventually she will ATTRACT one that she likes.
Best to move on to a guy that DOES find you interesting.