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some people stay together for the kids, and when they are gone, why wait?

also, divorcing with kids is so hard...custody battles, child support, surviving with a kid (or even multiple kids) on one salary is really difficult.

every marriage is different, so it's hard to say "why don't they just stick it out" when we don't know what's going on. I man, they may have been married for 30+yrs, but were they good years that would make you think twice about leaving? or were they so horrible that at your last kid's graduation, you're like "fvck that nicca"??? it all depends. 
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Originally posted by missunfoolish missunfoolish wrote:

question for yall

if you were old, say 60 and u find your husband cheating,
would u stay & suck it up or divorce?


depends. If I was cheating too...idk
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i have jokingly said you might as well stay together but why stay? i could not imagine spending all of my life coming home to a man i abhor. i jokingly say 'i wish you were dead' but when i genuinely start wishing you were...it's time to go.

my friends parents got divorced our senior year of college.  it was terrible to watch.  it shook her to her core.  and then the man had the audacity to have a gf in the same neighborhood he lived in w/his family. 
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I actually wanted my parents to get a divorce when I was younger. They put us through a lot as kids, and the police were always at our house . People think its so cute that they've been together for so long, but I sure as hell don't. They stay terrorizing eachother. Smh
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When I first left my parents house at 19 my mom would kinda hint around and say they're thinking about a divorce and would I mind. I told her no but I really wanted to say hell yeah I mind! That was 3 or 4 years ago but I think divorce is out the question. Since I was a child they would have their arguments but things would eventually be ok. If they did get a divorce I would definitely take it hard and I'm 23. Its always been us three. I'm the only child and wouldn't know how to handle something like that especially around the holidays. My mom was always the one who seemed so unhappy and I want her to be happy but I want it to be with my dad. Sad to say but I think she was cheating with a younger dude and when I found out I went off but that's another story. I been with my boyfriend four 4 years and he wants a child but we have our problems from time to time and I wanna make sure I can raise my child in a two parent household. How do yall feel about raising kids without their dad? Im terrified of that.
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Originally posted by missunfoolish missunfoolish wrote:

question for yall

if you were old, say 60 and u find your husband cheating,
would u stay & suck it up or divorce?

my friends grandparents got a divorce
she found out he been creepin and i was thinking that must be hard, being alone at that age
but i wouldnt stick around either

idk, thats so hard
divorce. thats it thats all. lmao LOLLOLLOLat creepin grandpasCry
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I find it weird for children to be so attached to their parent's relationship.
I don't really care what them nigguhs do.
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Originally posted by EasterBell EasterBell wrote:

my parents were never married.. so, yeah, i'm a bastard..
 
+1 lol
 
ETA: My maternal grandparents were married 20+ years and my grandma filed for divorce because my gramps cheated.  She never remarried but she's a happy soul :)  However, my mom feels that if they would have divorced earlier it wouldn't have affected her as bad as it did when she was older (she was in High School at the time)..she's the 2nd of 4 children


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Originally posted by modelbusiness82 modelbusiness82 wrote:

My parents officially divorced like 3-4 yrs ago (mind you I just turned 30) however they've been "separated" since I was in single digit years.

They stayed legally married bc neither one really seemed terribly motivated to seal the deal and my dad wasn't one to contest visitations, etc. Ehhh, by the time my parents finally divorced...no one even cared, they'd been apart for so long anyway.


no offense, but were they dating other people during that time?LOL
(we here don't believe in dating until the divorce is completely finalized. LOL)
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Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

mine divorced when i was really young. my grandparents remarried in their 60's after 40 sumthin years. does that count???


I love that story.



I knew a couple growing(relatives) up where the man was a philanderer the whole while; everyone in community knew it. He eventually left [town] and  came back about 30 years later after he got sick. They had never divorced ; and his wife took him in to take care of him (he was dying). My mom was all "oh that's so kind of her to take him in when he's down and take care of him." I told her "how do you know she's taking care of him, maybe she took him in to hasten his death . Maybe she's over there feeding him poison."  LOL

Mom didn't think that was funny.


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