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Bunnyahh 
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^^well said Lima
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SoutherNtellect
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Posted: Nov 27 2012 at 4:22pm |
 Limalady wrote:
Some people put a lot of their self-worth and value in coming from a 2 parent home. If one took pride in having the typical, nuclear family, I can see why divorce (even later in life), would be a difficult adjustment. If someone viewed their parents as the epitome of love or marriage, the demise of that relationship may be difficult to accept. This is just my hypothesis. I have never experienced this. |
okay. cuz i was just about to ask, how your parents splitting up would dramatically effect your life when you're grown. No choosing between parents and holidays, switching back and forth between homes, changes in financial lifestyle. Talk to me when your parents get divorced when you're a child or teenager. But i'll take this explanation and be understanding
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Sang Froid
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Posted: Nov 27 2012 at 4:23pm |
Limalady wrote:
Some people put a lot of their self-worth and value in coming from a 2 parent home. If one took pride in having the typical, nuclear family, I can see why divorce (even later in life), would be a difficult adjustment. If someone viewed their parents as the epitome of love or marriage, the demise of that relationship may be difficult to accept. This is just my hypothesis. I have never experienced this. |
People need to grow up.
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teendiva
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Posted: Nov 27 2012 at 4:26pm |
nala52808 wrote:
I actually wanted my parents to get a divorce when I was younger. They put us through a lot as kids, and the police were always at our house  . People think its so cute that they've been together for so long, but I sure as hell don't. They stay terrorizing eachother. Smh  |
This, except they never called the police. And that's a good explanation Lima.
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Alias_Avi
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Posted: Nov 27 2012 at 4:30pm |
Prolly both
SamoneLenior wrote:
Sang Froid wrote:
Limalady wrote:
Some people put a lot of their self-worth and value in coming from a 2 parent home. If one took pride in having the typical, nuclear family, I can see why divorce (even later in life), would be a difficult adjustment. If someone viewed their parents as the epitome of love or marriage, the demise of that relationship may be difficult to accept. This is just my hypothesis. I have never experienced this. |
People need to grow up. |
you have no heart
or trollin
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Limalady
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Posted: Nov 27 2012 at 4:30pm |
SamoneLenior wrote:
my cousin cried when this happened....he was in his early 20s
damn....it is still sad folks
Lima's post is spot on
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That is sad. I can imagine it would be difficult to accept. Did he ever come to terms with it?
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Sang Froid
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Posted: Nov 27 2012 at 4:35pm |
SamoneLenior wrote:
you have no heart
or trollin
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Nah I'm just not into pity parties. And I just don't understand why people would think of their parents as some infallible beings. They are human and have *&%^$#@Eed up relationships like everybody else.
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goodm3
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Posted: Nov 27 2012 at 4:45pm |
Limalady wrote:
Some people put a lot of their self-worth and value in coming from a 2 parent home. If one took pride in having the typical, nuclear family, I can see why divorce (even later in life), would be a difficult adjustment. If someone viewed their parents as the epitome of love or marriage, the demise of that relationship may be difficult to accept. This is just my hypothesis. I have never experienced this. |
this. to me, if you're parents are married, your initial views on love and marriage is based on your parents' relationship. why would i look to Barack and Michele when I have my own parents.
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modelbusiness82
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Posted: Nov 27 2012 at 4:56pm |
goodm3 wrote:
Limalady wrote:
Some people put a lot of their self-worth and value in
coming from a 2 parent home. If one took pride in having the typical,
nuclear family, I can see why divorce (even later in life), would be a
difficult adjustment. If someone viewed their parents as the epitome of love or marriage, the demise of that relationship may be difficult to accept. This is just my hypothesis. I have never experienced this. |
this. to me, if you're parents are
married, your initial views on love and marriage is based on your
parents' relationship. why would i look to Barack and Michele when I
have my own parents. |
This - to both posts. Sure
your parents relationship isn't your relationship, but it's still
something that you're exposed to. Even though my parents didn't get
officially divorced until I was way older, seeing them apart and the
tension between them definitely shaped how I wanted a relationship to be
and the kind of man I wanted (or didn't want). So to say
"what's the big deal/get over it" is a little ridiculous in my opinion.
From a psych perspective, your parents are the key aspects for shaping
your moral compass, how you view the world, etc. And especially later in
life, to see your parents divorce may make some people wonder if the
whole thing (their parents marriage) was a charade - even if they know
that it's better for their parents to be apart. Anyone who's
been in an LTR or has relatives/ long time friends who've been in an
LTR/married and later broke up will tell you, when it happens to someone
close to you (or yourself), you're going to get shaken a bit.
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carolina cutie
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Posted: Nov 27 2012 at 5:05pm |
SoutherNtellect wrote:
Limalady wrote:
Some people put a lot of their self-worth and value in coming from a 2 parent home. If one took pride in having the typical, nuclear family, I can see why divorce (even later in life), would be a difficult adjustment. If someone viewed their parents as the epitome of love or marriage, the demise of that relationship may be difficult to accept. This is just my hypothesis. I have never experienced this. |
okay. cuz i was just about to ask, how your parents splitting up would dramatically effect your life when you're grown. No choosing between parents and holidays, switching back and forth between homes, changes in financial lifestyle. Talk to me when your parents get divorced when you're a child or teenager. But i'll take this explanation and be understanding |
I will stick with this as well because I'm not feeling all that understanding and folk are serious in this thread. 
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