I've just started my hair journey, literally about a week ago under the strict advice from my older sister whose hair is about mid-back length while mine is approximately neck to shoulder length. I don't know the correct terminology. But, whatever I'm having some trouble finding hairstyles that I one like, but two that can last me at least a few days without doing my hair over. I feel I should go through my hair history:
10-14: Basic relaxers, no heat styling. I was stuck with ponytails and barrettes. Wash every two weeks. Sometime during 7th or 8th grade I got box braids with weave.
Freshman Yr of HS: Relaxer every 4 or 5 months, set in rollers mostly and air drying. Looking back my hair was extremely healthy.
Sophmore Yr of HS: Relaxer every 4 or 5 months, lots of blow drying, I wore it down alot even on humid/rainy days. I hated ponytails and wearing my hair up, I don't know why I was really self conscious about my face.
Junior YR of HS: I started wearing box braids with weave and would get them redone maybe every two months, I honestly can't remember washing my hair super often or even conditioning it. I wore my hair like that from September to the middle of January like that. Then I began relaxing every 4 to 5 months again. My hair was about armpit length. I think I was blowdrying it.
Senior Yr of HS: I wanted a change so I took one of my first trips to a salon. I hadn't gone to one in almost 10 years. I got my first hot oil treatment and deep conditioner there. I also got bangs. I bought a flat iron in about October and it was my best friend for a very long time. I didn't use it that often at first maybe once every two weeks. Then I began to use it every two days. If I saw any part of my hair frizzy or kinking up I'd straighten it. I was blowdrying and straightening at this point.
Freshman Yr of College: My senior yr behavior continued. Although I was blowdrying alot less, but was still straightening very very often. In the summer since I was working I would straighten it but put it in a ponytail. I trimmed my hair sometime in August, maybe about an inch was taken off bcuz my hair was really uneven. I got a relaxer in August I think and then again in January.
Sophmore Yr of College: I got a relaxer in August. As Fall came I began wearing hats bcuz I didn't feel like doing my hair everyday especially bcuz I was commuting and it was cold and I had to get up at 6 to get to class on time. That continued up until about March. I was not blowdrying at all basically. My hair is basically the same exact length it was in September. I decided to get Senegalese twists in May. I took them out 3 weeks later bcuz they were not done how I wanted them and the weave was slipping and my roots were puffy.
Now: I have absolutely no
idea what I'm doing with my hair. I am actively taking a major break from flat ironing and blow drying my hair. My hair is just in a state of chaos though, it's like screaming at me that it wants a relaxer, but that bitch needs to pause and take it down.I honestly don't like braids, they are just not me but I feel that I'm warming up to the idea more and more bcuz it's hot and I feel I've been spending dubious amounts of time trying to tame my mane. My hair needs some TLC right now, I need to try and get it back to at least what it once was by December and then even longer and better than that. My question here is how do I get to that? My idea is that if I wash co wash and deep condition until September than I box braid it and wear it like that until December I will be doing it the healthy and effective way. Though I would just like to box braid it now and wear it like that till December. I'm not sure. Advice plz????????????