Guys always stare but never approach

Okay, sometimes people email me and ask WHY do I have these opinions. Well I just found this site - but there are millions more that say the same things - so it's not just my opinion.

The below is an excerpt from this site -
http://www.unforgettablewoman.net/fb

Sure, they want you to buy their books :).. but a lot of this advice is free.

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The 7 Most Dangerous Mistakes Women Make With Men

Mistake #1 - Thinking It's About How You Look





Do you ever wonder why guys pass you over for women who

aren't nearly as pretty or attractive as you? If you are,

then I'm worried for you...





The reason why I put this as Mistake #1 is because it

"poisons" everything else you believe about love and

dating. When you think it's all about looking good... and

making guys FEEL good... then you're in for a rude

awakening.





Put simply, to make a man fall in love, you need something

else. (More on that in today's Newsletter!)





Mistake #2 - Being Too Available For Him





Most women think that if they become really good friends

with a guy they like, he'll eventually like them enough to

fall in love.





Big mistake!





Most times, this approach only leads you into his

"friend-zone..." mainly because, quite simply, guys won't

fall in love with their friends.

One guy who did once described it to me: "It felt like

incest."





Oops!





Mistake #3 - Pursuing Him





Question: What does (1) "buying him gifts," and (2)

"letting him sleep with you" have in common?





Answer: They're both signs that it's YOU who's pursuing

him... and not the other way around. And that's one of the

biggest mistakes you can ever make!





Why? Because like it or not, it's still HIS job to pursue

you, even in today's "progressive" dating scene.





Put simply, the chase brings out the BEST in him... and

BEING chased brings out the WORST in him.

My advice? Learn how to make him chase - and he'll do the

rest for you. (More on that later!)





Mistake #4 - Confessing Your Feelings





In my many years as a dating coach, I've met lots of women

who had no patience for the dating process. After just a

few dates with a man they liked, they just lay out all

their cards and tell him "how they feel" about him and

their relationship.





If you've ever done this before, then there's a reason why

the relationship DIDN'T work out. And it's the same reason

I mentioned in Mistake #3.





May I say it again? It's HIS job to chase you, court you,

and confess his feelings to you... and not ours.

So don't chase him, and instead, learn how to make him

chase you. Because even if he DOES say "yes" to your

confession, you'll still end up with a boyfriend who

knows, in the back of his mind, that the relationship

wasn't HIS idea.





Trust me when I say guys absolutely HATE that feeling!





Mistake #5 - Not Understanding Male Psychology

(Or Worse, Refusing To)





I've lost count of how many brokenhearted women have come

to me, crying and asking: "Why did he leave me? I loved

him. I gave him everything. I even let him sleep with me.

What else did he want?"





If this sounds a bit like your own experience, then here's

all you need to know:

The things we want men to do for us... are NOT the same

things they want us to do for them.





In other words, it's not about what you do for him. It's

about how you make them FEEL.





And if you want them to love you forever, you have to know

how to make them FEEL totally, completely, hopelessly in

love with you. (Again, more on that later!)





Mistake #6 - Thinking It's A Game Of Luck





Think about your girlfriends who are now in happy,

successful marriages. You may notice that they're not just

successful in love - they also have great careers, social

lives, and so on.





Why are they so successful, and you aren't?

If you think they just "got lucky," then be careful.

That's yet another poisonous mistake that's keeping you

from finding love... and keeping love from finding you.





Read this with me: Love is not a game of luck. It's a game

of skill.





And that brings me to the biggest mistake of all:

Mistake #7 - Not Doing Anything About It





It's one thing to know the mistakes you're making... but

it's totally another thing to do something about it.





And if you don't do anything, you'll keep making the same

mistakes... and you'll never find true love and happiness.





Don't settle for that. Take control of your love life!





Every day, we send you Newsletters packed with tips and

lessons that will slowly, steadily guide you through the

most common love problems you'll encounter.





But if you want a faster, more focused solution to your

specific love problem, then you need one of my books!

If you're making Mistake #1 or #2, then it means you're

being too friendly with guys. To make even your most

ordinary conversations make him feel romantically

connected with you, then this is the love guide for you.





If you're making Mistake #3 or #4, then you're doing too

much. If you want to learn how to make a man chase you -

and in turn do MORE for your relationship - then click

here now.





And finally, if you're making Mistake #5 or #6, then you

need to learn about male psychology - not just so you can

understand your man better, but also so you can finally

touch his heart in a way that no other woman can. Click

here to learn more!

I think Printer_Ink made a valid point about being approachable and not approachable. I had this problem when I first came out of a long term relationship and was in that "I don't want to be bothered, but I know I should keep living my life, so I want to meet some new guys" mode (lol). Although I thought I was putting on my big girl panties and sucking it up, when I went out I gave off a vibe that said I really don't want to be bothered. Guys rarely approached me at that time. 

I was like this for awhile too...after I broke up with my baby daddy I was single for a year..no sex, nothing. I'm very uncomfortable having sex with a man if we aren't in a relationship but anyway..

I just focused on me and my daughter..bettering myself and I did literally bump into him one day

My mom mentioned something the other day...she said its more women than men these days, population wise and if you sit around waiting for a good one you might miss out. Things are not like the old days its 2014 and there's nothing wrong with a woman approaching a man..I never thought of it that way but I do kind of agree..

The guys that stare but don't speak

I love wearing clothes like that its soo comfortable and guys do enjoy seeing your shape without it looking so raunchy...

Amen Printer