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Originally posted by Beauty620 Beauty620 wrote:

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Originally posted by lanae lanae wrote:

Ia w/ printer. Do u have a carefree, fun attitude in the club w/ your friends, or are u just sitting there looking hard up and worrying about being approached? If I were a man I wouldnt approach the latter even if she were fine.

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<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif">Yes I like to have fun when I go out. I hate to even go to a club where all they do it sit and stare. 
<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif">Maybe it's just me or I look mean....
<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif">Don't get me wrong my girl is nice, and maybe she does look a little gullable, I wasn't at all trying to be funny when I said she's not cute too me (my opinion) 
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<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif">But oh well it is what it is lol
<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif">Thx ladies....I respect you all's opinion Wink


Umm gullable is not the same thing as being 'approachable'. Earlier you said maybe she looked 'easy' ... so maybe you are just a bit jealous of her?

'Gullable' means she looks like a 'mark'.. like a guy could walk up to her and talk her into going to his place alone to check out his record collection. Then when she gets there .. he tries to rape her. That would be gullable.

'Aproachable' is what I said earlier - it's a certain friendly calm and confidence that attracts men. This has nothing to do with whether the girl is actually 'pretty' by social standards though .. it has more to do with how she genuinely feels about herself.

I have a couple of friends like that - they think it's their looks that cause men not to approach them (they are not pretty enough) .. but I tell them again and again, yes looking like Halle Berry is nice BUT it's the way you feeeeel about yourself in the inside that radiates OUT and attracts men.

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its goin to happen gurl don't worry at all=)))
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I think Printer_Ink made a valid point about being approachable and not approachable. I had this problem when I first came out of a long term relationship and was in that "I don't want to be bothered, but I know I should keep living my life, so I want to meet some new guys" mode (lol). Although I thought I was putting on my big girl panties and sucking it up, when I went out I gave off a vibe that said I really don't want to be bothered. Guys rarely approached me at that time. 
NOW when I go out, I'm approached more because I let the guy(s) know its ok to approach me, by smiling, or opening lines of communication. I'm still kind of "old fashion" so I won't actually approach a guy, but I will give them a a look and flirt from a far to let them know its ok to come on over.

Also at the time when I wasn't getting approached, I had a friend (that's a few years older than me) who was getting approached ALL the time. At one point I felt like she was being "easy" but after a while I realized that she was just being sociable, because she wasn't going home with these guys, she was just showing her friendly side that let guys know its ok to strike up a conversation.
 
I think now-a-days just standing around being pretty isn't going to get you what you want. 
I also feel the ones that told you "don't worry someone will come along" is not keeping it real. I don't feel you're doing anything wrong. But maybe try smiling a lil more...it won't hurt trust me I know. I've been told PLENTY of times I was mean mugging by more than 1 person both male and female, my whole lifeLOL 

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Originally posted by Majesty02 Majesty02 wrote:

To the OP I'm pretty sure there's nothing you’re doing wrong, so don't allow anyone to put that type of negativity in your head. If those guys didn't approach you it simply means the two of you weren’t meant to cross paths in life. God brings certain people into our lives for a reason. You never know, by those guys not approaching you, you could've dodged a bullet and not even know it. Or maybe their already in a relationship. ….Or maybe their intimidated by your aura.

You’ll never really have a definite answer.

 

 I've notice that men approach me a lot more when I'm dressed down, as opposed to when I'm dressed up just coming from the office. When I go grocery shopping, or making a quick run to Target or Walmart I’ll put on a pair of leggings, an active wear tank top, Jordan sneakers, a pair of stud diamond earrings, and sometimes even a baseball cap.  

 

From my experience men love to see a beautiful woman dressed down in sexy active wear looking like she just came from the gym. Nothing bummy of course, just something cute and sporty. I've been approached several times dressed down by professional men. Some were even wearing suits at the time.  The same thing happens to my mother. It’s something about a woman in sexy active wear that drives men crazy.

 

 

To the OP- The next time you go out grocery shopping put on a pair of active wear leggings (not the cheap see-thru ones from Rainbow lol)

a pink tank, and a cute pair of sneakers. Put on a little bit of make- up (preferably powder, and a natural lip gloss) And watch the men flock to you. I know it sounds crazy but trust me it works Wink

 
 
 
 
 
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Thanks for making this reply to this post Majesty! Big smile I am in the same predicament as the OP and will put your advice(along with the other girls' advice who posted) to use!!!!
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I was like this for awhile too...after I broke up with my baby daddy I was single for a year..no sex, nothing. I'm very uncomfortable having sex with a man if we aren't in a relationship but anyway..

I just focused on me and my daughter..bettering myself and I did literally bump into him one day

My mom mentioned something the other day...she said its more women than men these days, population wise and if you sit around waiting for a good one you might miss out. Things are not like the old days its 2014 and there's nothing wrong with a woman approaching a man..I never thought of it that way but I do kind of agree..

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^^phone acting up.

They probably doing you a favor..I guarantee that most of them probably assholes...but don't be afraid to get out there too..u know as women we have that natural flirtatious flow
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I love wearing clothes like that its soo comfortable and guys do enjoy seeing your shape without it looking so raunchy...
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Originally posted by Twisted_Angel Twisted_Angel wrote:

I was like this for awhile too...after I broke up with my baby daddy I was single for a year..no sex, nothing. I'm very uncomfortable having sex with a man if we aren't in a relationship but anyway..

I just focused on me and my daughter..bettering myself and I did literally bump into him one day

My mom mentioned something the other day...she said its more women than men these days, population wise and if you sit around waiting for a good one you might miss out. Things are not like the old days its 2014 and there's nothing wrong with a woman approaching a man..I never thought of it that way but I do kind of agree..

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Geesh - YOU with the string of abusive relationships and the ‘nothing but féd up relationships with babies’ have the nerve to give relationship advice? DUH! Who do you think you are kidding? What you think no one’s gonna read that last (of many) féd up posts you wrote about the current loser you are with? Step off.

One of the WORSE things a woman can do … is to 'approach a man'! He will be flattered and try to sleep with you and YEAH - HE WILL DUMP YOU! Why? Because the game is over. DUH!

@OP I already gave you advice – take it. If guys stare and don't approach you … mainly it has nothing to do with looks .. it's about the vibes you send out. PERIOD.

If you are STUPID enough to approach one of these guys ... that means YOU are doing the chasing so your stock has dropped 100%. Women that are 'somebody' and know it - attract men .. and then pick and choose the best of the lot. Women that are desperate etc … approach men.

He will flatter you, have a gleam in his eye, bed you .. and then HE WILL BE GONE and then you will be thinking he’s a liar, he tricked you and ‘all men are dogs’.

Sure women and men are sexually equal these days. You can approach a guy just like a guy can approach a girl. You can even sleep with as many guys as guys sleep with women. Knock yourself out!

HOWEVER, this has NOTHING TO DO with actually finding a real RELATIONSHIP with a guy such that he falls in love with you! Oh heck no! That would be another situation all together!

Do not pursue men because … that way lies HEARTACHE!

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