Guest Leaves Note About Crying Baby at Ski Resort

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   did anyone check out the brother's open letter response? (it was long). And I didn't bold anything lol

this is the brother of the woman who received the letter:

Dear Parent of Infinite Wisdom, 
First of all, I only write 
this in order to reassure my sister and brother-in-law that they are not
 doing anything wrong. You are undoubtedly a nasty person regardless of 
the situation you find yourself in and how others are treating you, so 
on the off-chance you even see this I hold little hope it will affect 
your outlook on life. Is it fair for me to judge you by one nastygram? 
At least as fair as your judgment of someone based on what you can hear 
through a wall, I suppose.
In your haste to pass judgment on 
others and whitewash your own memory of what parenting is like, you have
 forgotten to check yourself for the very inconsideration and 
selfishness you abhor. You decided to lash out at others who were 
unaware of your plight or discomfort, at least until you left a cowardly
 letter after the fact, at which point any opportunity they might have 
had to try to alleviate your unfortunate situation had passed. Perhaps, 
if you had yelled back or pounded on the headboard, then the thinness of
 the walls would have been more evident to the struggling parents. Then 
again, such an act of directness would have identified you as the petty 
selfish person you are. Personally, I think you knew that, which is why 
instead, you decided to lay your opinion out anonymously and with no 
consideration of what was happening within the room or who the people 
are you were addressing. You knew all you needed to know: "Someone is 
doing something I don't like! I should cry about it." Sound familiar? 
The baby was cutting teeth, what is your excuse?
Here are a few of the things you didn't know. 
My
 brother-in-law helps more people before you get out of bed and have 
your morning coffee than you have likely helped in your entire life. He 
operates on brains and misses out on an awful lot of time with his wife 
and child so that he can use his knowledge and skill to help adults and 
children alike (even the selfish ones) with a second chance. He saves 
lives. This week he is in Colorado for a conference where he can learn 
to better treat you if you happen to fall from a snow-lift, get thrown 
from your high horse, faceplant into a tree while skiing down the black 
diamond trail or have the misfortune to trip over your own 
self-righteousness and fall down the stairs head first. Personally, I 
don't blame him for wanting to take his family with him to a convention 
rather than missing out on another week full of memories so that he can 
be the best surgeon. It's a great job, a rewarding job, but not one 
without sacrifices.
My niece usually sleeps pretty well, and is 
not known for screaming in the middle of the night. If she were 
constantly having this issue both parents would be in a mental 
institution and you wouldn't have been disturbed. Newsflash: a night in 
the room with a screaming toddler is even harder than being next door 
and not something parents willingly plan for on holiday. From the far 
side of the wall, one cannot see the parents scrambling, attempting to 
feed the baby, rock the baby, shush the baby, walk around, rack their 
brains for a way to make the crying stop for their sake, for their 
neighbor's sake and not least of all for the helpless child's sake.
As
 for my sister, she is a kind and considerate parent, a dependable 
friend and an amazing wife. She is a first-time mother with a law degree
 who decided that spending time with and raising her daughter are the 
top priorities in her life. As a stay-home mother, I'm sure she jumped 
at the chance to get out of the house. What stay-home parent wouldn't? 
Sure, it is true, she's still learning the ropes. Can you remember what 
that was like? Do you remember thinking you knew your child's routines 
only to learn at an inopportune time that you don't really know much of 
anything? This usually occurs on the rare evening out with the whole 
family, or on a crowded airplane or when rooming next to the Prince or 
Princess of Passive Aggressiveness on the side of a mountain in 
Colorado. On those occasions, when your child transformed into a 
yelling, crying, sobbing ball of heartache you might recall your ears 
burning and your face flushing red with embarrassment. You may remember 
the hopeful feeling that there would not be a person like you around. 
Someone willing to belittle you rather than offer support, someone 
willing to call you a bad parent and a selfish person because you have 
somehow conspired to ruin their day, their meal or their trip. 
Well,
 guess what, perfect parent?! Your kids ruined things for other people 
too. As a matter of fact, you ruined more than one evening for others 
when you were a little tyrant yourself. The same is true for every adult
 walking the planet, unless their parents kept them tranquilized or 
frozen in carbonite until graduation. Maybe you didn't know, but it 
happened. That is the way of the world; this is not a hermetically 
sealed, adults-only dystopia where nothing unexpected occurs to anyone. 
If you want to guarantee a trip with those parameters (and since you 
obviously planned for this years in advance), then plan a little better 
and rent a freaking cabin or bring a set of earplugs. 
If it's not
 a child, it will be a dog; if it's not a dog, it will be a group of 
drunken fraternity members, or a construction crew, or a leaky faucet. 
Maybe loud lovers, the TV in the next room, or a neighbor who leaves 
their radio clock on all night that will disturb your slumber. It's 
always something, isn't it? I know the feeling. It sucks, but these 
things happen. Sometimes they are due to inconsideration and more often 
due to accident or happenstance. The question is not if but when
 something will taint our dreams of the perfect vacation, dinner or 
plane ride. I teach my children we can't control the actions of others, 
but we can control our own reactions. We can choose every day whether to
 let life's little inconveniences make us miserable, or to smile and 
carry on. Better still, we can decide to try to make the world a better 
place -- to lend a hand instead of pointing a finger. 
You, on the
 other hand, choose to spew hatred and judgment on others even when it 
will bring no change to your own situation. You didn't say anything when
 the young parents could have done something, choosing instead to leave a
 parting note to let them know what terrible people they are. Be honest,
 the note was not for the good of the world, it was for retribution. It 
was your way of doling out karma. I hope you are proud of yourself. 
I
 am sorry for you. I'm sorry for your children. Pat yourself on the back
 for never having your child wake another human (yeah, right) all you 
want, but when it comes to measuring the value of another person or the 
extremes of their selflessness (or selfishness) most of us would prefer 
to take a larger view and maybe learn something about the situation and 
its participants before we cast our stones. 
I know little about 
you; maybe you were just cranky and writing without thinking. Maybe you 
are too stupid to relieve yourself with some Tylenol PM or earplugs or 
by calling the front desk to ask about options before spending a second 
night in wretched misery within the Seventh Circle of Hell. Maybe you 
are a really great person who helps others with every spare minute not 
spent on holiday at a ski resort or judging other people's parenting 
based on cries in the night. Then again, maybe you are just an a**hole. 
Good day, 

Dad On The Run
P.S. Lil' sis. Keep doing what you are doing. Your 
child is a part of this world and just as much entitled to it as the 
next person. Those who wish to have a child-free experience have plenty 
of adults-only options for vacation accommodations. Love you.

Edited by PurplePhase - Mar 05 2014 at 8:02pm