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Posted: Dec 26 2012 at 4:10am |
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Hey I have a question. My boyfriend of a year and a half got me some very ummm practical gifts. An area heater and a one season of a DVD set that I don't have any of the other seasons too. The heater is understandable cause I am always cold but honestly I don't like space heaters and they tend to mess up my circuit breakers lol. Also it was something I would have got for myself if I needed it.
I got him Polo boots andPolo shirt and asweater. Stuff what he liked that I saw him eye before and was inline with his style. I eau super proud of my gifts!!!!
I nicely said "Babe I can't really use the heater and I don't have the rest of the seasons of the show" no shade or nothing. But he still acted really cold and said something about failing. Now I feel really bad. But I didn't want him to waste his money either. Honestly I had been hinting about what I wanted but he didn't catch it.
Should I apologize, am I ungrateful? Or should I just let it blow over?
What say you BHM
Oh and he has got better stuff before lol. This is not an often occurrence. For some reason though his random gifts are good while Christmas or Bday is off..
**excuse typos. Using my phone
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Posted: Dec 26 2012 at 4:22am |
Hella ungrateful And go ahead and take that "L" for going all out and he didn't  You gon' learn today
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Posted: Dec 26 2012 at 4:46am |
 misslexx wrote:
Hey I have a question. My boyfriend of a year and a half got me some very ummm practical gifts. An area heater and a one season of a DVD set that I don't have any of the other seasons too. The heater is understandable cause I am always cold but honestly I don't like space heaters and they tend to mess up my circuit breakers lol. Also it was something I would have got for myself if I needed it.
I got him Polo boots andPolo shirt and asweater. Stuff what he liked that I saw him eye before and was inline with his style. I eau super proud of my gifts!!!!
I nicely said "Babe I can't really use the heater and I don't have the rest of the seasons of the show" no shade or nothing. But he still acted really cold and said something about failing. Now I feel really bad. But I didn't want him to waste his money either. Honestly I had been hinting about what I wanted but he didn't catch it.
Should I apologize, am I ungrateful? Or should I just let it blow over?
What say you BHM
Oh and he has got better stuff before lol. This is not an often occurrence. For some reason though his random gifts are good while Christmas or Bday is off..
**excuse typos. Using my phone |
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Posted: Dec 26 2012 at 4:51am |
Ungrateful!! I hope he dumps you!!! J/k LOL He should be smacked upside the head for buying you a space heater. That's a crappy and thoughtless gift. It's a shame he didn't make the effort to buy you something you wanted. But like another poster said lesson learned. Next year buy him a trash can and see how he likes it. 
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You're not being ungrateful but you should apologize. Just for the sake of the relationship I think you should rub his wounds. The fact is that men's hearts are in the right place but theyre clueless. You'll probably get something better for Valentines Day.
I think there's a way to relay dissatisfaction without being disrespectful...one time I got my older cuz a $20 Macy's gift card since he shops there...I have a lot of 1st cousins I'm close to so I was working on a budget. I knew it wasnt much but atleast it was a $20 coupon basically. He said, "seriously, what am I supposed to do with this?"...to this day I haven't given him anything including for his baby shower. Now do somethin with that.
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Posted: Dec 26 2012 at 5:11am |
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he actually thought about you when he picked out those gifts and thats what matters. you shouldve reacted like he had just given you priceless jewels.
wait a week and then tell him he has to take back the heater because it caused the circuit breaker to fail.
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Posted: Dec 26 2012 at 5:24am |
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Say sorry but I don't get why it is a big deal about the DVD's. You can download the rest of the seasons. He gave thoughtful gifts to you. They aren't perfect to you maybe but many men aren't good at gift giving.
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Posted: Dec 26 2012 at 5:32am |
As for the space heater thing, you could've waited. I would've waited at least a day to say something. You could have told him that you love/really appreciate the gift but you don't think you are going to be able to use it because xyz, however you're happy that he even thought to get that for you and that shows that he pays attention. The way you said it wasn't absolutely bad but you could have said it better. I would've at least. You could have even suggested taking it back with him and finding an alternate gift with him. I really don't get the dvd one. That was stupid. If you finish the
season, you can buy the other ones or watch it online. You can't watch
the show because he didn't get you the entire collection? 
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Posted: Dec 26 2012 at 5:37am |
ms_wonderland wrote:
I think there's a way to relay dissatisfaction without being disrespectful...one time I got my older cuz a $20 Macy's gift card since he shops there...I have a lot of 1st cousins I'm close to so I was working on a budget. I knew it wasnt much but atleast it was a $20 coupon basically. He said, "seriously, what am I supposed to do with this?"...to this day I haven't given him anything including for his baby shower. Now do somethin with that. |
What an ungrateful prick. I've gotten gifts I didn't like before but never would I be so rude to someone who even thought to get me something. He could have pulled you aside and said he appreciated your thoughtfulness and next year he can give you some pointers on what to get him so you're on the money. Something like that. I would have snatched it back and told him that I'd give it to someone who needs it. If he can't figure out what to do with it, someone else will. 
Edited by ImThatDiva - Dec 26 2012 at 5:37am
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Posted: Dec 26 2012 at 5:40am |
SoutherNtellect wrote:
misslexx wrote:
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^^^smh... Anyway OP, I don't think I would have done that. First of all I'm not spending that much money on a man and secondly, the gifts he got for you were thoughtful and sweet. You could have waited and made a joke out of it later so he'd know for next time.
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