| chrissypoo wrote:|
I am feeling better and eating more now, I just tend to lose my appetite when I am very upset/stressed about something. I was not easy for him to get, I knew him for a few years before we got closer and even then it took several months before I reciprocated his advances. But yes, I agree that since then I am constantly available for him. We texted all day and we also video chatted every night because it helps deal with the distance and not being able to physically be around each other much. It's not like it was completely one sided and just me insisting that we talk all day while he's trying to get away. But yes, I can see how constant contact even while we're busy can cause one to lose interest.
there is nothing wrong with communicating all the time, texting, etc. while in a relationship...especially a long distance one where that is all you have since you can't just see the person. but its always fun to swithc up a little....not ALWAYS be available...let him miss you a bit.
however, your presence, vibe, energy etc. is probably what he was sensing. men like a confident woman. your insecurities were probably pouring out and it could be a turn off. obviously he cared about you....but you have to work on YOUR confidence. Work on developing who chrissy is. a guy should be an extension of you not a ladder where he is holding you up and you fall when he leaves.
i think he provided you the perfect opportunity to evaluate, reflect and work on you.
breaking up is always hard to do when you care.....BUT it is much different when you have invested ALL of you being into him.
i agree with volunteering, hobby, hang out, etc. don't listen to the sad songs, don't watch love movies....try to hand out, meet other people.
if you are a praying woman, PRAY for guidance, strength, and direction.
It WILL be OK.... my pm box is open in case you need an ear....
just take it day by day.....