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afrokock 
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 Posted: Dec 05 2013 at 1:47am |
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tell him to not indulge in casual drunk sex with chicks who arent his gf.
secondly do you all remember the story of the guy who got convicted of rape because of his texts?
there was a thread on that
its a fine line ..
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Posted: Dec 05 2013 at 1:51am |
Never have sex with a girl unless she's sent you a text that proves the
sexual relationship is consensual beforehand. And it's a good idea to
even follow up any sexual encounter with a tasteful text message saying
how you both enjoyed being with one another -- even if you never plan on
hooking up again.  at the "morning after" text as well
As a mom of 2 boys I think alot about their future and my hopes for them. I'm going to tell them not to get drunk, don't sleep around, and stay focused on their studies, not their gfs.I don't think she's crazy for telling her sons to act responsibly, and so a yes text isn't that bad of an idea. I just wouldn't teach my boys that.
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Posted: Dec 05 2013 at 1:55am |
Drunk women never crossed my mind I'm thinking about sober ones.We actually talked about this tonight because of Jameis Winston. My son is so overwhelmed with his impending journey into the "real world." He let out the biggest deepest sigh I ever heard.
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Posted: Dec 05 2013 at 1:55am |
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That isn't really reasonable. Who texts someone asking for confirmation? That is lame as hell. Most of the time girls don't go out with the specific intention of smashing that night. He's never going to get any going that route. Secondly, what if she changes her mind? A yes text isn't really proof of anything. Hell, maybe he texted that unlikely bullshyt from her phone to give himself an alibi. And then a "thank you" text even if you already know it was a one time thing? This is just sleazy.
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Posted: Dec 05 2013 at 1:56am |
 OoDles O wrote:
Well regardless of what she wrote...cause a sexual consent text is questionable (what if she was drunk texting)
when the rubber hits the road and your beloved son is actually heading off to college
what do you tell him? stay abstinent ? Wait till marriage ?
If it were me... I would tell him to stay away from alcohol and drunk women... I didn't drink all through college because I was always disgusted by alcoholics because my dad was a functional one.
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I plan to tell my son something like this, amongst plenty of other lessons related to what consent is. But I think it's important to be careful of how that lesson comes across. I believe there is a difference between telling them to avoid a drunk woman because she might accuse him of rape, and telling him to avoid a drunk woman because she might be unable to consent. Put the burden on his actions, not hers. I'm still developing my ideas about drinking and hooking up. I don't drink so it's sort of a hands-off subject that I'm trying to learn about.
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Posted: Dec 05 2013 at 1:59am |
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So is he supposed to ask her specifically through text whether she is willing to have sex with him? Isn't that kind of pressuring her? Or is consent supposed to be the new prerequisite to going out...?
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Posted: Dec 05 2013 at 2:04am |
liesnalibis wrote:
So is he supposed to ask her specifically through text whether she is willing to have sex with him? Isn't that kind of pressuring her? Or is consent it supposed to be the new prerequisite to going out...? |
Maybe a picture of her smiling saying I want to have consensual sex with you and one after saying...thanks for the great consensual sex.
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Posted: Dec 05 2013 at 2:07am |
herwoman wrote:
liesnalibis wrote:
So is he supposed to ask her specifically through text whether she is willing to have sex with him? Isn't that kind of pressuring her? Or is consent it supposed to be the new prerequisite to going out...? |
Maybe a picture of her smiling saying I want to have consensual sex with you and one after saying...thanks for the great consensual sex. |
What's girl's gonna go for that, though? Pretty much being called a potential liar and trouble maker while being used for sex. This isn't practical.
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Posted: Dec 05 2013 at 2:09am |
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Let's take a hand count: How many ladies in here would proceed with sex if the guy first required a text from you freeing him from suspicion in the event you subsequently falsely accused him of rape?
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