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Originally posted by femmemichelle femmemichelle wrote:

Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

why do you have to explain this to anyone?

Immigrant communities are nosy as hell. I know the day will come and I'll probably feel slightly ashamed/embarrassed. 

But I don't trust them. 

I know the pressure's coming because some of my friends are getting engaged and my mother keeps talking about grandkids and I'm sitting here like... Confused...


I understand being an immigrant.  You can just give them some bs answer about waiting for God to put the right man in your life.  Immigrants don't argue when you say GodLOL

but seriously--you are not alone in your sentiment. you have been hurt and you're scared.  I equate it to when you get into a car accident.  When you start driving again you are naturally skiddish and wary until you learn to trust yourself again.

just like you wouldn't want a bad experience to turn you off one racial group, you don't want it to turn you into a "niccas ain't sheit" kinda woman bc then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. don't let yourself be so jaded at such a young age.
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Originally posted by femmemichelle femmemichelle wrote:

Nothing to see here Stern Smile



GOD DAMN IT.

20 SECONDS AGO? I JUST ENTERED THIS THREAD AND YOU JUST POOFED IT?

MAAAAN

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Originally posted by nekamarie83 nekamarie83 wrote:

Originally posted by femmemichelle femmemichelle wrote:

 I'm not attracted to females/women btw. 

 but BHM...how do I go about explaining to people that the thought of being in an emotional relationship with a man is something I just don't want without sounding like a basket case?

How do I explain this to people LOL I just don't like them. I think they're attractive, but I just don't..like..men. I think they're weapons of mass emotional destruction tbh. My mother's going to kill me Stern Smile
no homo? had to put that in huh? LOL 


also do you have to explain? are you harming people with this idea/belief? no? then you're entitled to feel/do you. people's follow up questions get as much attention as you deem necessary.  you can hit em up style with the Stern Smile face, say "no thank you", change the subject... the world is yours. LOL


Oh okay someone quoted.

OP, I agree, I don't trust dudes. We've normalized some pretty toxic sh*t when it comes to male behavior. Most guys are products of that dangerous complacency. Culture isn't always reasonable.
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Originally posted by femmemichelle femmemichelle wrote:

I don't need therapy. When what happened two months ago happened I remember my friends telling me not to hate men because of it, and I remember thinking why on earth I'd do that.

I just do now. Not hate per se, because I can live and converse with them. I just can't see myself ever being with one. I don't think that warrants therapy. 


I understand. This isn't misandry, op just prefers to keep a safe distance from guys. I don't blame her. Look at what American society teaches men.

I think this is just to maintain peace for herself.
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hopefully femme has come back and read this thread
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Men are horrible horrible creatures.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (1) Thanks(1)   Quote coconess Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 21 2014 at 9:05am
i dont want you guys to feel like that.. 

some guys are horrible but you can definitely still find someone that you can trust and will treat you right. 

dont give up. 
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