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Sang Froid
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Posted: Jun 20 2014 at 2:34pm |
She's afraid of being hurt. I bet if she said her issue someone here can relate.
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goodm3
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Posted: Jun 20 2014 at 4:25pm |
Sang Froid wrote:
She's afraid of being hurt.I bet if she said her issue someone here can relate. |
i think so too....but I respect her choice in not sharing it.
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BBpants
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Posted: Jun 20 2014 at 7:27pm |
I don't trust people in general..but there are some trustworthy men out there....some lol
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JoliePoufiasse
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Posted: Jun 20 2014 at 7:30pm |
It's just as well that she doesn't go into detail. The minute there's a scuffle with another poster, it'll be thrown in her face anyway.
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NadiaPost
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Posted: Jun 20 2014 at 7:44pm |
JoliePoufiasse wrote:
It's just as well that she doesn't go into detail. The minute there's a scuffle with another poster, it'll be thrown in her face anyway. | Sad but true. Don't share sh*t on this board. I don't trust lightskin women with creole in their blood that let their sisters beat down their husbands. Having trust issues is very common. The singer Pink looks like she smells like catpiss and bourbon.
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EPITOME
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Posted: Jun 20 2014 at 10:00pm |
femmemichelle wrote:
EPITOME wrote:
why do you have to explain this to anyone?
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Immigrant communities are nosy as hell. I know the day will come and I'll probably feel slightly ashamed/embarrassed.
But I don't trust them.
I know the pressure's coming because some of my friends are getting engaged and my mother keeps talking about grandkids and I'm sitting here like...  ... |
I understand being an immigrant. You can just give them some bs answer about waiting for God to put the right man in your life. Immigrants don't argue when you say God 
but seriously--you are not alone in your sentiment. you have been hurt and you're scared. I equate it to when you get into a car accident. When you start driving again you are naturally skiddish and wary until you learn to trust yourself again.
just like you wouldn't want a bad experience to turn you off one racial group, you don't want it to turn you into a "niccas ain't sheit" kinda woman bc then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. don't let yourself be so jaded at such a young age.
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Midna
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Posted: Jun 21 2014 at 4:07am |
femmemichelle wrote:
Nothing to see here 
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GOD DAMN IT. 20 SECONDS AGO? I JUST ENTERED THIS THREAD AND YOU JUST POOFED IT? MAAAAN SOME OL BULL
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Midna
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Posted: Jun 21 2014 at 4:09am |
nekamarie83 wrote:
femmemichelle wrote:
I'm not attracted to females/women btw.
but BHM...how do I go about explaining to people that the thought of being in an emotional relationship with a man is something I just don't want without sounding like a basket case?
How do I explain this to people I just don't like them. I think they're attractive, but I just don't..like..men. I think they're weapons of mass emotional destruction tbh. My mother's going to kill me  | no homo? had to put that in huh?
also do you have to explain? are you harming people with this idea/belief? no? then you're entitled to feel/do you. people's follow up questions get as much attention as you deem necessary. you can hit em up style with the face, say "no thank you ", change the subject... the world is yours.  |
Oh okay someone quoted. OP, I agree, I don't trust dudes. We've normalized some pretty toxic sh*t when it comes to male behavior. Most guys are products of that dangerous complacency. Culture isn't always reasonable.
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Midna
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Posted: Jun 21 2014 at 4:13am |
femmemichelle wrote:
I don't need therapy. When what happened two months ago happened I remember my friends telling me not to hate men because of it, and I remember thinking why on earth I'd do that.
I just do now. Not hate per se, because I can live and converse with them. I just can't see myself ever being with one. I don't think that warrants therapy. |
I understand. This isn't misandry, op just prefers to keep a safe distance from guys. I don't blame her. Look at what American society teaches men. I think this is just to maintain peace for herself.
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indiecat
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Posted: Jun 21 2014 at 9:03am |
Men are horrible horrible creatures.
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