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Originally posted by Random Thoughts Random Thoughts wrote:

Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

Originally posted by femmemichelle femmemichelle wrote:

I don't need therapy. When what happened two months ago happened I remember my friends telling me not to hate men because of it, and I remember thinking why on earth I'd do that.

I just do now. Not hate per se, because I can live and converse with them. I just can't see myself ever being with one. I don't think that warrants therapy. 



There's nothing wrong with you. I don't believe you need therapy for this. And I don't believe that everyone wants to have romantic relationships. Not wanting that does not mean you're broken or anything negative.




On the same token, going to a therapist does not mean someone is broken. Just like going to the doctor doesn't mean someone is sick.


I was referring to the fact that not wanting a romantic relationship with a man doesn't make her broken. What you said is true as well.
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i wanna know what happened. 
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Femme, one thing that helped me is understanding that your romantic orientation and your sexual orientation are two different things. And that you don't have to act on either.

There's a good infographic for this...I'll see if I can find it.
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Do you like sex? I am wondering how you feel about it because you have an aversion for men yet you are not attracted to women.

Your issues might be deeper than what you think. Perhaps something happened when you were small and you pushed the memories away, but that remained in your subconscious mind and that's why you already had a problem with men before the issue 2 months ago?

You really need to seek therapy. Regardless of your interest in having a romantic relationship with men, it is not healthy for you to feel this aversion towards them.

You said something about men not being monogamous...not all men have this issueSmile
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Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

Femme, one thing that helped me is understanding that your romantic orientation and your sexual orientation are two different things. And that you don't have to act on either.

There's a good infographic for this...I'll see if I can find it.
true and i was explaining the concept of being a heterosexual biromantic to someone a while ago. 

and ooh, can't wait to see the infographic. Smile
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Originally posted by nekamarie83 nekamarie83 wrote:

Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

Femme, one thing that helped me is understanding that your romantic orientation and your sexual orientation are two different things. And that you don't have to act on either.

There's a good infographic for this...I'll see if I can find it.
true and i was explaining the concept of being a heterosexual biromantic to someone a while ago. 

and ooh, can't wait to see the infographic. Smile


At this point I'd classify myself as a demisexual biromantic. It's all very interesting.
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Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

At this point I'd classify myself as a demisexual biromantic. It's all very interesting.
awww!! Embarrassed 
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Edit...that didn't work right...here's the link.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/19/asexual-spectrum_n_3428710.html?1371648467

It has the romantic orientations and sexual orientations.

Romantic: Heteromantic, homoromantic, biromantic, panromantic, a romantic.

Sexual: Asexual, Gray-A/Demisexual, Sexual (which includes homo/hetero/bi/etc).


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In a way, I get where you're coming from though I don't carry hatred or dislike for men..I just don't my faith in them and believe their privilege affords them a lot of luxury and insensitivity.
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