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femmemichelle 
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Posted: Jun 20 2014 at 9:32am |
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Edited by femmemichelle - Jun 21 2014 at 4:06am
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Posted: Jun 20 2014 at 9:36am |
I wanna know what happened. PM me I won't tell nobody.
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Posted: Jun 20 2014 at 9:37am |
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I feel sad you feel this way. When I was waiting for my delayed flight last weekend there was a girl sitting at the bar next to me who articulated something similar.
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Posted: Jun 20 2014 at 9:38am |
 femmemichelle wrote:
I'm not attracted to females/women btw.
but BHM...how do I go about explaining to people that the thought of being in an emotional relationship with a man is something I just don't want without sounding like a basket case?
How do I explain this to people  I just don't like them. I think they're attractive, but I just don't..like..men. I think they're weapons of mass emotional destruction tbh. My mother's going to kill me  |
no homo? had to put that in huh?
also do you have to explain? are you harming people with this idea/belief? no? then you're entitled to feel/do you. people's follow up questions get as much attention as you deem necessary. you can hit em up style with the face, say "no thank you ", change the subject... the world is yours.
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Posted: Jun 20 2014 at 9:40am |
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why do you have to explain this to anyone?
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Posted: Jun 20 2014 at 9:43am |
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You ever thought of getting therapy?
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femmemichelle
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Posted: Jun 20 2014 at 9:44am |
Trusted someone. Took advantage of me. That's pretty much the gist of it.
Even if I could get past the barrier I have of just not liking them as people...I'd still have to deal with the fact that say if I were to get in a relationship, so many of them have problems being monogamous. So now that's two barriers.
I know I've felt this way prior to what happened two months ago, but I've never been able to put it in words. I thought my lack of being able to form an emotional connection with males my age was due to shyness and fear of rejection. But I honestly believe that I just have a natural aversion to many of them It's really hard to explain..
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Posted: Jun 20 2014 at 9:49am |
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Many women deal with this and they cope by lowering or having no expectations of them. I honestly don't know which is worse.
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Posted: Jun 20 2014 at 9:51am |
femmemichelle wrote:
Trusted someone. Took advantage of me. That's pretty much the gist of it.
Even if I could get past the barrier I have of just not liking them as people...I'd still have to deal with the fact that say if I were to get in a relationship, so many of them have problems being monogamous. So now that's two barriers.
I know I've felt this way prior to what happened two months ago, but I've never been able to put it in words. I thought my lack of being able to form an emotional connection with males my age was due to shyness and fear of rejection. But I honestly believe that I just have a natural aversion to many of them It's really hard to explain.. |
I've been through this. I let that situation, my childhood and a particulaly vile incident in my life close me off emotionally to men for years. At the end of the day, this attitude will only harm YOU. I'm now involved in a good relationship but I did everything in my power to push him away and nearly succeeded because I didn't want to be had anymore. You have to find a way to work on this. Invest in therapy. When the issue is so deep, you can't work it out on your own with self-help books, trust. I don't believe you have a natural aversion to men. I still think it's a fear of rejection and emotional pain.
Edited by JoliePoufiasse - Jun 20 2014 at 9:53am
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Posted: Jun 20 2014 at 9:59am |
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Therapy will go a long way
good luck femme
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