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Girl why you came on here. you know BHM hates when the poor have kids word to the micky d's thread.
tell him get a lawyer and maybe he can start a little business sell weave or koji san soap, belts do yard work while he looks for something.
And like sang said record all convos and save all text messages. He sounds like a good man at least he is trying
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Op are you really the new wife? Anyway, I hope he acquires a job soon. I hate that those court ordered every other weekend visits , fathers need to spend more time with their children.
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ANd yes you can work out payments with ANY bill.  Remember they just want their money.  especially if you cut off services already. they always ask "ok how much can you give/pay today and work with you.
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The mother hates him more than she loves her children.  How does it benefit her children to have their father put in jail, get a record and never be able to get a good job again to help her support them.   People working against their own best interest make me itch. 
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^^shortsightedness
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as far as I know, one can't avoid being served. Once the documents are sent certified mail to the last known address, its a wrap.
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Originally posted by kfoxx1998 kfoxx1998 wrote:

The mother hates him more than she loves her children.  How does it benefit her children to have their father put in jail, get a record and never be able to get a good job again to help her support them.   People working against their own best interest make me itch. 


Isn't that the case in alot of these bitter cs issues?  The extreme cases are when the exes kill their kids out of spite...that happens way too often.Ouch

Now if he's unemployed, how will having 5 kids to feed help the situation? Why should the ex-wife send her kids to him?  I wouldn't if it were my kids. 

And what does the new wife say about all this?  Is she working?  I get the feeling she isn't...

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Originally posted by Naturalchick30 Naturalchick30 wrote:

Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Originally posted by Krystal Klear Krystal Klear wrote:

He needs to be snipped. I can't stand males like him that keeps populating with no regard to his or anyone elses pockets. The procedure is quick and cheap. Cheaper than paying for FIVE kids
comprehension fail?

I don't think you 2 or anybody else who's against me understand.  The op presented a problem.  She needed a resolution on how he can improve or help his situation.  Up until my post, there were only 2 helpful tips.  Mine & SangFroid's.   Everyone else was just just talking loud but saying nothing.  Yes, he should record phone calls and still make payments.  That will help him out TODAY.  Yes he should get a vasectomy, that will help him in the FUTURE.  Seems like you all are the ones that can't comprehend that.

 I dont care how small the payments are, if he is paying SOMETHING, he wont look like a deadbeat in the court's eyes.  If she's avoiding the papers of being served, he can serve her at her job, at her home, certified mail, something, but she can't hide forever.  He shoul also DOCUMENT every single attempt and present that to the courts.   To the ones saying have the wife pay until he gets on his feet, well until the op comes back and answers my question of "does she work and how much does she bring in?"  We don't know if she is even ABLE to help.  If she was, I'm sure it wouldn't have gone so far as jail threats.   Jail ONLY comes into play after you've missed several payments, not one or 2.  

I dont see the courts taking 2 girls away from their mom, who they've been with all their lives,  to a man that sees them twice a month, no job, and a house full of family that he's already struggling to take care of.   He just wants to take them so he won't have to  pay.   Otherwise, he would've had tried for custody a loooong time ago.  Instead he was chasing his new wife, not worried about the girls.  

I think this new wife is possibly the reason why the marriage broke up.  She saw a successful black man living the american dream with a good job, nice family and comfortable living.  Then she said I want that.  Weasled her way in, had some babies to keep the checks coming, now the unforseeable has happened with the layoff and they dont know what to do.   I dont think the wife was working if she has twins and a newborn.  If the twins are young, I'd take a guess that she's a sahm.   Money for daycare or nannies for little ones is A LOT.   I dont think they are in a position to pay for care.  Just my guess until OP comes in to clarify.   

Is that too bold?LOL

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Originally posted by Tbaby Tbaby wrote:

Originally posted by kfoxx1998 kfoxx1998 wrote:

The mother hates him more than she loves her children.  How does it benefit her children to have their father put in jail, get a record and never be able to get a good job again to help her support them.   People working against their own best interest make me itch. 


Isn't that the case in alot of these bitter cs issues?  The extreme cases are when the exes kill their kids out of spite...that happens way too often.Ouch

Now if he's unemployed, how will having 5 kids to feed help the situation? Why should the ex-wife send her kids to him?  I wouldn't if it were my kids. 

And what does the new wife say about all this?  Is she working?  I get the feeling she isn't...

My feeling as well.  That is why I asked hours ago.  All this lawyer talk as if lawyers take these cases for free.  HA!  he better find a public defender or legal aide pro-bono.  Otherwise, get some little bit of payments made.  Him stopping payments was the WORST thing he did for himself.  
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You all are some imaginative women!

If chick wants the money she has to go to court at some point.  I'd think he can just let them know he's unemployed, but actively seeking.  Garnishing an unemployment check is better than going to jail.  He needs to deal with what he can.


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