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4shopiece
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Topic: Frustrated: Black Men In Brazil Posted: Feb 07 2013 at 6:12am |
im watching about 25 minutes in......this maybe because Im young (Im in early twenties) but from what Im gathering is that BM who would otherwise be decent men arent able to have successful relationships with BW because of an independent woman complex?
I have a lot of thoughts on this , not sure how to word them
I felt irritated for some reason while watching this
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Oladunni
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Posted: Feb 07 2013 at 6:34am |
These old lonely men can't be serious... smh
I do know a black preacher who visited costa rica , and there was a native lady that was takin good care of him and his church family there, he dropped his woman and married the lady. Saying that she knew how to take care of a man etc..
Its w.e..
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Limalady
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Posted: Feb 07 2013 at 6:35am |
No one really said anything new.
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afrokock
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Posted: Feb 07 2013 at 6:37am |
this might be a repost
but i'll watch
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Limalady
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Posted: Feb 07 2013 at 6:37am |
Oh and I can't relate with the whole frustration argument. Sorry. I take good care of my man, and he takes me with him on vacation because he prefers me to those women.
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4shopiece
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Posted: Feb 07 2013 at 6:47am |
Just finished....I didnt like how they made BW in the US seem insecure and money hungry. I think it would have been more interesting if they got the men to talk about more specific situations that impact BM/BW relationships. They did mention education and finance but didnt discuss why thats an issue and I was a lil bothered by that. Eventhough They briefly mentioned the importance of the family unit which I think thats where a lot of the issues stem....there is a lack of family structure. Also seems like the men wanted women to play traditional gender roles which are not always conducive to daily life in the US in many AA communities.
My overall thought : It was interesting that the men felt that patriachy is ideal for successful relationships and because it clashes with the independent woman complex they go lookn for love in places where patriarchy is more of a norm
Edited by 4shopiece - Feb 07 2013 at 6:48am
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afrokock
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Posted: Feb 07 2013 at 6:47am |
actually this is a repost
there was lengthy thread on this
i remember zupreme saying something along the lines of 'if the money goes so do they' and that they act different once they get to the states
relationships are not that comlicated
you want a woman that panders to your every whim and acts like she has no other purpose in life than cater to you? find that woman there are plenty of them
the problem is, guys want everything and dont want to put in the work or take the time to find that one woman who will fit their bill, or the women they desire have far much better options than deal with their bullsh*t so these blokes become sex tourists and go on the innanets and start whinging
Edited by afrokock - Feb 07 2013 at 6:52am
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afrokock
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Posted: Feb 07 2013 at 6:56am |
man it was few years ago
im trying to recall key phrases to search for
there are so many white bloke forums on this, why american women are the worst etc etc etc
i dont think misogynist decrisbes these guys but they are def sexist and misogynists
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Limalady
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Posted: Feb 07 2013 at 6:57am |
Positive K wrote:
Limalady wrote:
Oh and I can't relate with the whole frustration argument. Sorry. I take good care of my man, and he takes me with him on vacation because he prefers me to those women. |
Now u with a white man right? Before he met u, did he get his travel on?
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Limalady
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Posted: Feb 07 2013 at 7:04am |
afrokock wrote:
actually this is a repost
there was lengthy thread on this
i remember zupreme saying something along the lines of 'if the money goes so do they' and that they act different once they get to the states
relationships are not that comlicated
you want a woman that panders to your every whim and acts like she has no other purpose in life than cater to you? find that woman there are plenty of them
the problem is, guys want everything and dont want to put in the work or take the time to find that one woman who will fit their bill, or the women they desire have far much better options than deal with their bullsh*t so these blokes become sex tourists and go on the innanets and start whinging | This is true. These men act like women don't want to cater to their men. That is not the case. Good men get taken care of by their women. If they want a woman that cooks, is loving, and consideration top of that she works and will hold him down when times get rough, they could find her in their respective countries. The partner a person attracts depends on what they bring to the table.
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