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In my situation I immediately wanted to help her get better but she basically snapped completely and was never herself again when she got out of the hospital.  We only grew apart because she changed into a very different person who was completely "checked out".  It was very hard for me.  There was lots of guilt too even though I couldn't have done anything.  It happened so fast. I literally felt abandoned.  Like she left me mentally and emotionally even though she was still physically there. Took a long time to recover from the shock of it. 
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And I was angry with her for a long time for letting it get that bad ......
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I wanted to add that I take my feelings out of those kind of situations.
I feel nothing. What I mean by that is, I purposely don't make myself a victim.
My friend is the victim (of her/his mind) my friend is the one suffering (from his/her own mind) and my friend is the one who needs help controlling their mind instead of being controlled (by emotions).

I also have to be real when I analyze the progress, if there is any. What if there is none? I never stop telling my friend that they are the master of their mind. If they ignore me I text, I leave a message, I put a sticky note on their door IDGAF!

Even when my friend gives up, I can't. But if my friend commits suicide, I know that they just couldn't come out of the state of mind that their emotions are in charge. I hurt, I grieve, but I do not become attached to these emotions.

To keep myself in check, I purposely ignore some of my thoughts and feelings. I need to be mentally aware of the fact that whatever I feel is a choice that I get to make.

My only mission is to try to get my friend to know the same, and I am fully aware that it may not work that way for them because they just don't want it to. They cannot find their identity in the sea of thoughts and emotions that are swirling around constantly. They cannot shut their minds off or turn it down. Ahhh. Suffering is self inflicted!!



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yes, if thats my friend of course im going to help her....the real problem is will she be willing to listen to my advice or receive my help.
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