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Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

I also think trust is more about the individual themselves and not the person/people they trust in, but that's another discussion and maybe someone will read my mind and make the thread tomorrow. lol


lol

I don't get what you mean


  trust isn't all about whether you trust the person to always do right , but more do you trust yourself to be able to deal with it if they don't. 

are you going to make my thread? LOL


oh well I trust people will be assholes lol

what thread are you talking about? lol
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Just because I decide forgive doesn't mean I need you in my life.


I think it's more just the peace of mind of letting it go and moving on.
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Yes, forgiving and being someones fool are two different things. 
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Originally posted by missdeeluxe missdeeluxe wrote:

Just because I decide forgive doesn't mean I need you in my life.


I think it's more just the peace of mind of letting it go and moving on.
/shrug
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Yes.  I had a really hard conversation with a friend and hung up on this point.  In summary, I received an award that she thought she should have gotten.  She talked about me behind my back, turned other people against me and avoided me until I confronted her.  She tearfully apologized, said it was just this place she was in and she felt she couldn't catch a break and no one was seeing her potential on and on but that she never meant to hurt me but that she was hurt by my selection.  I told her that I accepted her apology but that even if I felt ALL those things, I would NEVER do that to her and I didn't want anyone in my life who could justify treating me that way.  She CRIED.  I listened and expressed that I'm simply beyond a point in my life where I need to "keep my enemies close and watch my homies."  We hung up and aside from her "liking" a couple facebook posts haven't talked since.

You know what is good for you and what isn't.  A good friend will respect that and whether they respect it or not they have to accept it because it is what it is.  
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see if that happened to me TG

I would not only tell the girl about herself and/or never speak to her again

I would block her (lol) and forever dislike her

I think the forever disliking her pert is where I go wrong.....you are supposed to just not care right?

how do you not care?
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I don't forgive. I'm not gonna lie and say I forgive cuz I still hold bitterness over sh*t that may have been years ago. But I'm alright with that. I still sleep peacefully at night lol


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Originally posted by ThatGurlD ThatGurlD wrote:

Yes.  I had a really hard conversation with a friend and hung up on this point.  In summary, I received an award that she thought she should have gotten.  She talked about me behind my back, turned other people against me and avoided me until I confronted her.  She tearfully apologized, said it was just this place she was in and she felt she couldn't catch a break and no one was seeing her potential on and on but that she never meant to hurt me but that she was hurt by my selection.  I told her that I accepted her apology but that even if I felt ALL those things, I would NEVER do that to her and I didn't want anyone in my life who could justify treating me that way.  She CRIED.  I listened and expressed that I'm simply beyond a point in my life where I need to "keep my enemies close and watch my homies."  We hung up and aside from her "liking" a couple facebook posts haven't talked since.

You know what is good for you and what isn't.  A good friend will respect that and whether they respect it or not they have to accept it because it is what it is.  


99/100 this is what happens when people cry, all my friends are in a happy relationship why not me why am I not getting married.

One of my girlfriends said this to me the other day, that it's often people who check themselves against their friends and have moments where they feel better than their friends and thus are more deserving of accolade sang nice things etc etc

Off topic I know.

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Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

I also think trust is more about the individual themselves and not the person/people they trust in, but that's another discussion and maybe someone will read my mind and make the thread tomorrow. lol


lol

I don't get what you mean


  trust isn't all about whether you trust the person to always do right , but more do you trust yourself to be able to deal with it if they don't. 

are you going to make my thread? LOL


oh well I trust people will be assholes lol

what thread are you talking about? lol
yes this is true,

Trust is not always about good deeds, I trust people to be who they are ..

I trust a thief to be a thief, a ho to be a ho etc etc

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One of my fav quotes: there is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally.

I grew up in a home where my mother forgave easily, and my father held grudges for a lifetime. Guess which one is more at peace and at one with life?

I forgive before people even hurt me. All is forgiven, because I consciously choose who stays in my exeriences. I keep those who serve love (a lot of the time) We're human, sometimes we ignorantly offend. If we're ignorant, can we truly blame each other? It's those who consciously offend that I have a problem with, but then I feel pity for them instead of hate or anything else, because to know something will hurt someone, and you still do it indicates that something is seriously troubling you.


I used to hold grudges a lot, until I realized that most people live in their egos, where they serve only themselves. They can't even see me, let alone realize that they are me, and be good to me. But I do realize that, but have once lived in my ego too. And so I can't hate someone for not yet growing, i can only keep them in my positive thoughts..and help them to grow if/when they are ready.





Edited by Derri - May 09 2014 at 7:26am
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