That's for you though. What worked for you may not work for her. I understand what you mean, I'm not condoning this man's actions or even really disagreeing with you. I was raised the same way and I agree the home is unstable.
You can fear disappointing your parents while also fear punishment. I'm sure it was a good mix of both. I think for most kids it's a mix of both.
How do you know they have not addressed this with her? This was a 19 second clip.We only know what happened at the time that the bystander started filming this. People keep saying "talk about it, talk about it". Okay...then what? What if they already talked about it?
In all these cases it is the parents job to seek help.
Exactly. Now what would you suggest? What is "help"? The police do not help. CPS does not help. You cannot "force" a child to do certain things, legally. If the girl contracted an STD her parents could not even make her take a test or get treatment. If she committed a crime she would simply be arrested. Counseling does not always prevent this type of behavior and you can't "force" medication down a persons' throat. It's not as easy as people think. People say "seek help", but what does that mean? What are the alternatives? What I'm saying is those avenues are not as abundant as people who have not gone through this type of situation may think. Police recommend...nothing. They simply bring the child home and keep on pushing.
There should be more programs to help troubled youth and programs for parents to learn how to properly handle and discipline their children to prevent this type of behavior. There should be clearly laid out repercussions for children who leave the home if abuse is proven to not be present. THEN situations like this will no longer happen. Give someone the tools to do something different and they may.....do something different. At the very least there wont be an excuse.
One could argue that if you have to ever get to the point where you have to whip a child then you have "failed" as a parent. There are a lot of people who believe hitting a child (even up to the age of 13) is a form of failure on the parents part. That's all subjective.
This man was wrong. The whipping was not wrong. The way he did it was wrong. She was wrong too.
Edited by OhMyCurlz - Mar 15 2014 at 6:45pm