| Gkisses wrote:|
You are right in the sense that there are many reasons a child runs away. However giving said child a whipping when you find them isnt solving the problem. Which is why they are likely to do it again. Its the job of parenta to find out what caused this girl to behave this way.I could tell that this wasnt the first time she was hit because she was going through the motions. Its easy to blame the child for reckless behavoir but you have to remember who raised them. It this case it appears to be grown women who call her a b1tch and hoe and men who grab her by the hair and beat her and they wonder why shes not respecting herself...
I don't agree with the filming, hair pulling, and the name calling, I do think they were out of line for that.
She deserved the whipping aspect.
By that logic, any form of punishment (house work, whippings, time outs, etc) don't solve the problem. The whole purpose of punishing someone is to hopefully get them to stop and also deter them from doing it again. She was gone for over 24 hours, she should get much more than a stern "talking to". Had she committed a crime while she was gone, she would have (depending on what it was) been held responsible and punished for what she did. We can find out why she did it.....but we can also tap that ass too. That's life. She has 5 years and then the world will no longer care "why" she did what she did they will only care whether she did it or not and if so, she will face the repercussions.
Most kids who have the fear of God in them don't stay gone for THREE days, only to return looking like they just came from the club. They wouldn't be so ballsy to do that.
A child who runs away once is just as likely to do it again regardless of whether the parents have a Bill Cosby moment with them or not. All of us did rotten things as children. What would have prevented you from doing the things you did the most: the thought of getting a whipping or your mom asking why you did it?That's the part that I disagree with. This idea that simply talking to a child will prevent them from doing bad things. That's not the case a lot of the time. We wouldn't have a juvenile system if that were the case all of the time. Teens do things because they want to...most of the time. It's just that deep. I just feel it's idealistic to assume that simply "talking" to a child about why they are misbehaving is going to stop them from doing something like this. Not every child is the same and the action should meet the punishment. Especially if we are talking about teenagers. Her reasoning for running away could have very well have been "Because I wanted to." Then what? How do you punish a child then? By talking? What if they already "talked" to her and she still disregarded their rules? What if she said "f' your rules" and did it again?
Edited by OhMyCurlz - Mar 15 2014 at 5:26pm