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EPITOME
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Posted: Oct 11 2012 at 12:20pm |
oh--Caribbean folk stay asking for money from family in the US--that was irrelevant to me.
the making up stores part is problematic
Edited by EPITOME - Oct 11 2012 at 12:20pm
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EPITOME
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Posted: Oct 11 2012 at 12:21pm |
SamoneLenior wrote:
yall just take anyone one's advice and don't consider the source?
but I would need more people to say the same thing for me to not side my cousin's advice
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she said more than one family member said it
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sistagal
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Posted: Oct 11 2012 at 12:21pm |
She's bobbing on David's dick dude
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sistagal
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Posted: Oct 11 2012 at 12:23pm |
EPITOME wrote:
herwoman wrote:
OP your cousin is looking out for you. She sees that you ate falling for him even when your mouth says your not. The reason you gave us all that dirt on your cousin was for us to dismiss her as a dumb jealous hoodrat,but she seems to genuinely be looking out for you. I had a bad feeling about a "friend" of my sister's and I brought it up every chance I got. If she looked like she was smiling to herself I would say "who you thinking about Jake the snake?" Or I would say "I'm sure all his other boos smile like that too when they think about him."
Seems like your cousin feels that you aren't really experienced in the dating game and you don't know how to leave a date as just a date without catching feelings. |
I kinda think this. The first part of the story had nothing to do with ole boy. Just cause you're grown doesn't mean anything if your family cares. esp. Caribbean families--nothing ever dies. |
This is true too.
OP seems to want a way around meeting with David without feeling guilty. I side-eyed the platonic relationship with only kissing.
You want to bob on him too OP admit it *inser spongebob smile*
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sistagal
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Posted: Oct 11 2012 at 12:26pm |
SamoneLenior wrote:
EPITOME wrote:
oh--Caribbean folk stay asking for money from family in the US--that was irrelevant to me. i know the deal. |
let me take out the part about money
My father's side of the family
mostly live in the Caribbean and there are always bittersweet moments
with them. My cousins and I have always had a love hate type of
relationship. Not to mention,
the backbiting I have to deal with. they would always question my life
and then add on to what they 'think' is going on in my life and make
rumors about me, and also make fun of me. One of my cousins saw some
ezema on my back and asked if 'men dont scorn me' because of it.
Needless to say I have tailored my interaction with them and have
remained civil yet distant just to avoid the drama.
you all are okay with family treating you like this?
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It happens even with African families. Your life is not yours to live trust. You just shrug it off or you'll raise your blood pressure.
Family will discuss your relationship. What you wore to so & so's bday party & in whose direction you were shaking your arse the most. Happens all the time
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sistagal
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Posted: Oct 11 2012 at 12:47pm |
SamoneLenior wrote:
okay, so it is a cultural thing to be okay with such treatment?
nevermind, carry on
(no shade, I just don't tolerate ish like that (i.e., disrespect))
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Unfortunately...yes. You don't disrespect or talk back to your elders & unfortunately some elders are full of sh*t & just abuse their position.
The only person that matters to me is my mother & she has to save face to those people. So I know if I disrespect them I disappoint my mother & people end up abusing her instead. So I just stay away from people so I never have those confrontations & if I do I just shrug it off.
Anyways back to topic lol
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ThoughtCouture
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Posted: Oct 11 2012 at 12:58pm |
is this cousing older? i thought they were around the same age? that's why i didn't consider the respect thing initially. but anywho, it seems like the cousin is living in a glass house...
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Rumbera
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Posted: Oct 11 2012 at 1:06pm |
Good question, TC ...is the cousin older ?
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ThoughtCouture
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Posted: Oct 11 2012 at 1:08pm |
also, the whole bit about men scorning her because she has eczema would have made me look at her like she had 10409827459824809284 headz...
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babelipsss
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Posted: Oct 11 2012 at 1:11pm |
How can the cousin be so wrong, when other family members said the same thing? Everybody can't be after Mr. Wonderful.
Edited by babelipsss - Oct 11 2012 at 1:11pm
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