I didn't disappear. I just been busy, I am in college and I do work full time.
The wig doesn't move at all. Yes, I pin the hell out of it. Sometimes I will my hair into the wig hair (like the lauren conrad braid) so it doesn't even move. and it is DEFINITELY not gentle sex. maybe the wigs weren't secured correctly when they moved.
My hair isn't that short. I decided that by January, it'll be almost shoulder length. I have been on the 4 month Hairfinity supply and am on month 3 right now. It's intensely thick. I did ask him if he'd mind if I cut my hair and I showed him the length that I would cut it to (which is actually the length I predict it'll be at in January) and he said he wouldn't notice. In regards to the short hair is ugly comment, he meant as long as you have hair. If you don't, it looks boyish, which I agree with. With cancer, it's different. The thing is, I wanted my hair to be under wigs until it was MBL. I'm afraid that by keeping it out and styling it everyday, it will break off. The thing is, I won't straighten it. I'll wear a straight wig and if he tries to touch it, i'll tell him not to touch it. I know plenty of girls with unnaturally straight hair, esp those who aren't black, that don't like their hair messed with when styled.
my boyfriend does move too fast. apparently i'm the best of all the girls he's dated so i guess he's anxious to get moving to the next step even though realistically, that won't be in a few years.
for everyone asking my age - I'm going on 20. We're in college. I don't plan to have kids anytime soon...not til at least 25.