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    Posted: Aug 25 2013 at 9:23pm
so my boyfriend (who's white) and I were discussing a celebrity's short hair. He abruptly said "short hair is gross" ... Unhappy I'm currently transitioning my hair and I'm pretty much at the neck length stage when stretched but my goal was to continue to wear by my college graduation 2016 as a growth goal. However lately it feels like the shrinkage is getting to me...it just looks like 7 months of growth isn't as long as it could be without the shrinkage...okay now i'm rambling. 

my boyfriend knows not to touch my head or my neck due to a "trauma" issue so yes, he'll touch it but not the top (he asked today, but i think it was because i finally straightened my KC wig).  Idk...I'm just worried. I haven't been in a relationship since I cut my hair off in january and decided to try wigs ... but now I'm a little anxious as he starts mentioning kids and moving in! (that's a long way from now though) but I kinda reject it because I'm scared he'll find out about my wigs and my short hair ... that's, in his opinion, gross. 

IDK....any advice/suggestions? Anything to help calm me down? Please don't tell me "if he really you loved you, he wouldn't care" because I don't even love myself with short hair  and think I look unattractive... I'm just using the wig until it gets to APL (length of my wig) but hell, if it gets to shoulder length unstretched (it never has :/) then i'll just wear my hair like that and tell him the stylist got scissor happy. My ultimate goal is BSB or BSL but my hairs been under a wig since January, maybe it'll be good to let it breathe for faster growth once I get to APL. 

i feel like I can handle this for one more year...do you think it will get from Neck lenght to at least shoulder length? idk, am I worrying too much? Confused
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NVM . I really wanted to help you . GL Cry

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Wait, so you're saying your boyfriend has always seen you with wigs and think that it's your real hair? =/
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you guys must not be sexing if he thinks the wigs are you hair. Stern Smile Show that man your hair and let him know your wearing the wigs as a protective style. What if you guys have kids and the babys hair turns out 4c with major shrinkage...What will you do then?


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we do have sex. and my hair's far from 4c, it's 3c all over but 4a in the back, so i'd hope they don't end up with that hair. and idk, i was hoping that before all that stuff happened, the moving in, that my hair would be shoulder length. i mean, it's already neck length...one more year and hopefully it's at a comfortable length for me to ditch the wigs.

I will however let him know that if he sees me with straight hair, it's fake b/c I'm not altering my natural curls. 


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he's never asked if it was my real hair. why bring it up? he's seen photos of me with my curly hair before the BC and I guess assumes it grew to the length of my current wig. 
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I dont think he meant that he found "wig" gross , I think he meant that he doesn't like short hair...
You should tell him, as long as your hair look presentable even if its short he won't mind . 
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you're afraid hes gonna leave if he finds out about your short hair and wigs? 
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Welp eventually he will find out one day. Ask him why does he feel that short hair is gross.
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Originally posted by peaceloveandcurls peaceloveandcurls wrote:

so my boyfriend (who's white) and I were discussing a celebrity's short hair. He abruptly said "short hair is gross" ... Unhappy I'm currently transitioning my hair and I'm pretty much at the neck length stage when stretched but my goal was to continue to wear by my college graduation 2016 as a growth goal. However lately it feels like the shrinkage is getting to me...it just looks like 7 months of growth isn't as long as it could be without the shrinkage...okay now i'm rambling. 
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<span style="font-size: 12px; line-height: 1.4;">my boyfriend knows not to touch my head or my neck due to a "trauma" issue so yes, he'll touch it but not the top (he asked today, but i think it was because i finally straightened my KC wig).  </span><span style="font-size: 12px; line-height: 1.4;">Idk...I'm just worried. I haven't been in a relationship since I cut my hair off in january and decided to try wigs ... but now I'm a little anxious as he starts mentioning kids and moving in! (that's a long way from now though) but I kinda reject it because I'm scared he'll find out about my wigs and my short hair ... that's, in his opinion, gross. </span>
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IDK....any advice/suggestions? Anything to help calm me down? Please don't tell me "if he really you loved you, he wouldn't care" because I don't even love myself with short hair  and think I look unattractive... I'm just using the wig until it gets to APL (length of my wig) but hell, if it gets to shoulder length unstretched (it never has :/) then i'll just wear my hair like that and tell him the stylist got scissor happy. My ultimate goal is BSB or BSL but my hairs been under a wig since January, maybe it'll be good to let it breathe for faster growth once I get to APL. 

i feel like I can handle this for one more year...do you think it will get from Neck lenght to at least shoulder length? idk, am I worrying too much? Confused
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