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Midna
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Posted: Jan 31 2013 at 5:12pm |
ModelessDiva wrote:
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Yes, I was friends with a scandalous chic for 17yrs. From the very beginning I knew she was a rat. But I still tried to see the good in her, because she “seemed” cool & made me laugh. All she ever did was constantly begging to barrow my clothes, shoes, jewelry etc.. And to make matters worse she had big ass mouth. When I would tell her personal things about my life, this bish would go out and tell other people. Then try to deny it. She even tried to hit on one of my boyfriends at the time. She was always envious of me because I had a lot more going for me, and I came from a well off family etc. And she was from the hood, and didn't really want anything out of life. It finally got to a point to where we were arguing almost every time we talked over crazy sh*t, even when I would try to simply talk to her, she would explode, and scream & cuss (like a typical basica) For years everyone was telling me to stop dealing with her, because they could see past her BS, but I would always make excuses for her. I can admit we did have a lot of good times, but the negative was just too overbearing. Finally I just got feed up with everything, her stealing my clothes, talking behind my back, the extra drama, and disloyalty. And I said F it, I'm done. This "friendship" was causing more stress than happiness in my life. I prayed about it, and God led me to a conclusion. It was hard to do, but I cut her completely off. I even cried about it, but sometimes you have to eliminate the negative entities in your life. Looking back I realize she was never really a true friend. The only reason I continued to deal with her was because I subconsciously felt I needed her, because we had been friends for sooo long. As a female it’s really hard to make genuine friends especially as you get older, so that’s why I kept her around. From time to time I miss her and think about all the fun things we did together, but then I snap out of it and remember all the hell she put me through. But this was the best decision I made. And I have no plans to reconcile with her. As far as I'm concerned she no longer exists. If I see her out I'll act like I don't even know her.  |
You must be a Cancer. 
Cause homegirl woulda got cut at the bolded. It wouldn't even went past that with me.
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Girl please, a Cancer can snap real quick.  I. WANT. MY F UCKIN. SHIRT. BACK!
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Posted: Jan 31 2013 at 5:39pm |
Yes I have a two of them actually. Its about to be a third. All of them different things but the first one I realized she was crazy. Dressing blacked out and going out and slashing and keying up this dudes car. I was like WTH, she tried to make me believe it wasn't her but I knew it was.
The second married this 70yr old man, I didn't have a problem with that but we were friends for over 12yrs and have yet to meet him. She would get upset when we said we would drive to her city to come by and just say hi. I mean dayum she was the first one out the crew to get married we were happy for her even though dude was grandpas age. Oh and she didn't even invite us to the court house wedding....i woulda driven the 4 hours to go. I was supposed to be her best friend.
The third I am on the fence. I will save that story for later.
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Posted: Jan 31 2013 at 6:59pm |
Majesty02 wrote:
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You must be a Cancer.  Cause homegirl woulda got cut at the bolded. It wouldn't even went past that with me.
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Lol. Nah, I'm a Scorpio. I felt sorry for her because she
had a hard life growing up. And as adults, the same pattern continued. I was
the nurturer and she was the leech. She really took my kindness for weakness.
Never again. 
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Awwww I'm going to give you a big hug!!! You sound just like me!! I have had to learn within the last few months to stop being friends with miserable people. I've encountered several.
They will cling to you then suck the life out of you. They expect you to take care of them and if you don't they will remind you of their misfortune and subconsciously make you feel "uppity and sheltered". Once they accomplish that they then try to shame you into giving away your blessings.
Don't fall for this,
Because the closer you get, the deeper you discover the black hole is. There is no amount of help you can give that will ever satisfy them. It's the truth. Don't believe me, see for yourself. No matter how "sad or unfair" life was to them, you have to remember it's also sad and unfair for you to be used for a free ride.
Leave them alone, and befriend people who lift you up instead of bring you down.
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Posted: Jan 31 2013 at 7:11pm |
midna i know you all can snap back lol
i was just saying i know a lot of cancers who don't know how to let go .
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Posted: Jan 31 2013 at 8:52pm |
ModelessDiva wrote:
Majesty02 wrote:
ModelessDiva wrote:
You must be a Cancer.  Cause homegirl woulda got cut at the bolded. It wouldn't even went past that with me.
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Lol. Nah, I'm a Scorpio. I felt sorry for her because she
had a hard life growing up. And as adults, the same pattern continued. I was
the nurturer and she was the leech. She really took my kindness for weakness.
Never again. 
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Awwww I'm going to give you a big hug!!! You sound just like me!! I have had to learn within the last few months to stop being friends with miserable people. I've encountered several.
They will cling to you then suck the life out of you. They expect you to take care of them and if you don't they will remind you of their misfortune and subconsciously make you feel "uppity and sheltered". Once they accomplish that they then try to shame you into giving away your blessings.
Don't fall for this,
Because the closer you get, the deeper you discover the black hole is. There is no amount of help you can give that will ever satisfy them. It's the truth. Don't believe me, see for yourself. No matter how "sad or unfair" life was to them, you have to remember it's also sad and unfair for you to be used for a free ride.
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Thank you ModelessDiva for those words of encouragement.
Even though I cut her off a few months ago I'm soo much stronger now. When I
start to feel a "friend" is trying to play me, or take advantage of
me, I cut them off with no hesitation. 
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