| petiteone29 wrote:|
I see people say this to others who grew up in the hood but are now living a pretty good life financially. I feel like it is impossible for someone to actually forget where they came from. All of us know our beginnings and how we got to where we are. Sometimes I feel like people say this just to bring you down and make it seem like you are acting brand new or like you are better. I never see anyone say this to people who grew up in middle class to upper middle class families.
Should the person from the hood who worked hard to get where they are be more humble and appreciative than the person who didn't have to face as much adversity due to their environment?
They are saying thatto guilt you into not enjoying your success. Basically, if the one rat finally crawls out of the barrel .. just before he reaches the edge .. all the other rats try to pull him back in ... so he can have the nothing life they have made for themselves as well.
I have always gotten that impression because of friends that got through school and became successful Doctors, Lawyers etc .. but still they have family members that try to berate them for living so large with one hand... while trying to get some money out them from the other hand.
I felt sorry for them because they forever have these freeloader family members weighing them down, guilting them into loaning them money. Of course, they will never return it and in a few months will want more ..and if they say no there will be an argument and the first thing they will say is 'you forgot where you came from!'Like they've got something on you or they know you are really 'nothing'.
It got to the point that a few of them just took jobs in other states and make up excuses not to visit home anymore because they get tired the whole thing.
I don't think there is anything wrong with helping family but when it gets to the point that they are using you ... cut em lose.