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    Posted: Jan 18 2013 at 10:59pm
Hi all,

Please let me know what you think.
I will make it short.
We move 8 months ago in a new city and have met new people. I have a 5 yo daughter is is trying for the second child.
We live in a neighborhood with few blacks. There is 1 couple that we met since we moved here. They have 3 kids and my daughter bound with their equal 5 yo daughter.
Unfortunately  the  husband is in jail and the wife is taking care of the kids alone.
She has started coming to our house more frequently mostly to pick up her daughter or to drop mine etc....
I go to school so my hubby spends most of the time with my daughter. He dropped her at her house too for her to play etc...since she is only child and sometimes lonely.

Recently we were invited to a party and my hubby told me that he met her outside her house ( they live 2 houses away) and she told him that she heard that he will be her date at the party....I found it weird but ignore it. Everytime she comes to my house, the FIRST question she asked is if my husband is at home.
Last week she was at my house and we drank wine and were talking lout etc...I got so uncomfortable when I saw her touching my husband's arm...because he was talking and she needed him to listen to her. I didn't know what to reactAngry since we were all half drunk etc....so I attributed that to the wine.
My husband always go to costco and Sam's club etc...and EVERYTIME she asked him to bring either cake, ice cream etc...for her. I went to her house last week and she was eating icecream. When I asked her if she went shopping, she told me that my husband brought it to her from shopping.

Now I want so much my daughter to have someone to play with ( since she always asked to go their house to play with the other girl and sometimes cry when I refused).

Today, she texted me that I should text her my hubby phone number and I didn't even reply to her text.
I told my hubby and he told me that he dropped my daughter there today to play and maybe that lady wanted him to buy something from the store for her. I think she is exagerating. When I told my hubby that, I won't give her his # and that I don't think that buying her stuff at the store everyday is appropriate ( the problem is not the money but the attention and gestures ), he told me that I am childish and is not talking to me anymore.

Ladies what would you do if you were me?

Thanks a lot for your time.
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Your husband response to your wishes leads me to think they may be messing around . Listen to your gut feelings . I would check out the time he spends in the woman house without his knowledge . GL  
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It sounds like she's just lonely and misses having a man around to help her with errands, etc.
Right now it seems innocent enough, just annoying on your end.

I don't think you'd be out of line to say something if it continues.
It would start to bother me after a while.

However, I think it's ultimately up to your husband to put his foot down.
He might just see it as he's being nice and neighborly.
Talking to her about it would be more appropriate coming from him as she's asking him to run all over town for her.

I've had similar situations with my boyfriend.
He's a really nice guy and women like that, he doesn't see that they're trying to get with him lol.
You just have to trust that should a compromising situation come up (say she tries something) that he'll do the right thing.
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Thanks ladies....
But if they are messing around, how come she doesn't have his phone number?
Or is it a trick?
I would cut  her loose...but for my daughter's sake.....I don't know.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote missdeeluxe Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 18 2013 at 11:28pm
Originally posted by bella05 bella05 wrote:

Thanks ladies....
But if they are messing around, how come she doesn't have his phone number?
Or is it a trick?
I would cut  her loose...but for my daughter's sake.....I don't know.
I think that would speak to the fact that nothing is going on.

Usually having the # is pretty crucial for texting, sexting, phone calls, etc.
Are they friends on FB?

You could do some investigating, but I don't recommend it unless you find something that indicates they're fooling around.
I always feel awful after looking through a guy's phone or reading his FB messages.
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She is bound how?

Superglue, duck tape or stapled?


Edited by oh_so_moody - Jan 18 2013 at 11:51pm
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I don't know what kind of relationship you and your husband have, but I could easily roll up on my SO like, does that woman want my man? She don't know I would shank a hoe?
From his body language I'm sure you know if you suspect something or not.
I'd speak to him again in my own special way, and read his body language accordingly.
Worse case scenario, I'd PI them without them knowing.
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Yup she wants him and I think he knows she wants him too.
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Originally posted by oh_so_moody oh_so_moody wrote:

She is bound how?

Superglue, duck tape or stapled?



stahhppp it LOL
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She wants your husband and your man is feeding into her. Don't beat around the bush and outright ask him. It might shock him and he might deny but he'll know you are awake and watching. It might also shock him into seeing what he is doing is not acceptable. There isn't much you can do about her but keep apart and hope she backs off without making yourself look crazy. 
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