Does anyone feel that "People who look a certain "

 

Seriously. My mother begged me not to marry my husband because he's dark-skinned. I took my son over to my parents' house after he was born. The first words out of my mother's mouth were, "I knew that he was going to be dark. It's fine because he's a boy, but you don't want a girl that color." I didn't even tell her that I was having another girl because I didn't want any of her toxic energy.

 

My mom told my youngest daughter that she would be so pretty if only she were as light as her older sister. I don't think we talked for maybe 15 years after that.

What I was trying to simulate was the fact that it's not necessarily the beauty of these women that captivate people, it is their look. The differentiating factor, to me at least . The differentiating factor from what I've seen, experienced, and just have concluded is that as long as you have this sort of look, you are automatically deemed as a Goddess or some archetype of a woman. (Which I believe is true, all women are Goddesses regardless of the way they look, none of us choose, and certainly the Goddess lays in all of us)  

As long as you look this way, you often times get a pass, for many things. It's the highschool hall monitor "You need a pass to be accepted here" concept. Simply put, as long as you look this way in some sort of form, it doesn't take much for you to impress many people often times with what you have to offer. Because of the fact that you are automatically deemed the whole package already! So you can have a normal personality (Meaning, you are like most human beings, which I think is absolutely okay) where in you believe to do good, feel good, and live good whilst treating others good, it's like, "Wowwwwwwwwww! You are everything." Meanwhile there are many people with the same outlook on life. You get away with doing everyday things, or saying things, that most people would with admiration. You are automatically "Too good to be true." 

People give in and believe in this facade, that all you do is spectacular and more so than anyone else from what I've noticed.  

Let someone who does not have this look say something of similar dialect and it's not often a "Too good to be true," it's more of a "Yes, I agree with you." Meaning it's not as exciting. 

Truth be told though, I just wanted to clarify that I know and am well aware that this is not the only concept of beauty at all. Growing up as a West Indian girl and living in America now, the same concept can apply. Your "coolie" haired cousin is pretty because of their hair. Your lighter sister should model, sort of thing. And this can apply to my thread very well because when you piece them together, being a lighter complexion and having that hair texture, you are often more appreciated than anyone else. Therefore it's not truly always about beauty, it's your assets. 

Same thing can apply to Vashti (Who I think is also beautiful as these women), she is a normal featured woman, but because of her hair and the way she dresses people fawn over her and fall into what may or may not be a facade. 

I don't want to look like those girls, realistically. Because I wouldn't be me if I did. I do believe most times I'd have it "easier" in certain ways as noted yesterday night. However, I do sometimes wish I was so then I'd be the "whole package", because if my insides are okay, it's a shame that people often don't give me the chance because of the physical. 

It's okay though, we're humans after all. 

So it's something to think about and I appreciate everyone responding so much.