Do second chances work?

Damn aria.

Once a cheater - always a cheater? That is just not true. Please do not take a few lines here and a quote there out of my post to justify your opinion, not cool - not right. Anyone, Hell Anybody, can change, if they want to and make a conscious choice to do so. Because someone cheated does not mean they cannot change, ah Hell No. I am not justifying a cheater's actions, do not misunderstand that Fact! Read my post in its entirety and those who recognize and understand it as it has been simplified for all y'all viewing, will clap and say..Preach Sister!! Tell! the congregation now..going naH! Hate it or Love it but Honey it is factual and actual. I very much recognize the dangers of STDs, that Honey you are soooo on the money, but I just wanted to layeth the smaketh down on the whole 2ND Chance thang. So SISTERS! if your man cheated on you now or in the future, I am saying think, review, rewind and determine if there is a future for the both of you. Look if you are between the age of 18 - 25yrs and your man cheated, it ain't impossible that he would not do it again and it is equally not impossible that he or she cannot change if that person feels that you are worth the change. However, if you and your other half are above 25yrs, Honey, you reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeally need to think extra hard because neither of you are getting younger. There might be plenty of fishes in the sea as they say, BUT if the DEVIL you know can TRUELY Change, for Gods sake give em a 2ND Chance bcos, more often than most, that relationship eventually last a test of time, bcos you know one another's weaknesses and strengths and can then use that to completely rebuild and evolutionize your relationship. Reeeeeeeeal Talk.
Hey Honey, if it did not work for you, do not hate on others for whom it works for. Again...Congre - ga - tion, Real Talk


Edited by ariahoney - Dec 01 2012 at 5:56pm

I like this topic, there's a lot of opinions.

The thing about cheaters is that they won't change, at least not with the person they cheated on.

I say this as someone who's been cheated on and someone who's cheated herself. Once you've gotten away with it, you keep doing it till you get caught. And if you get caught, forgiven and taken back by your foolishly in love doormat of a partner, you keep creeping, just get sneakier about it. Why would you stop doing something you wanna do? You already dgaf about how your man/woman feels and you know they're weak enough to take you back anyway.

You loose respect for the person who takes you back, you almost look at the person like their a punk.

Sorry but if you take your man back after cheating he's not gonna stop. You can believe whatever you want to make yourself feel okay with the situation but a cheater gon cheat.

BoutThatLife wrote: The thing about cheaters is that they won't change, at least not with the person they cheated on. I say this as someone who's been cheated on and someone who's cheated herself. Once you've gotten away with it, you keep doing it till you get caught. And if you get caught, forgiven and taken back by your foolishly in love doormat of a partner, you keep creeping, just get sneakier about it. Why would you stop doing something you wanna do? You already dgaf about how your man/woman feels and you know they're weak enough to take you back anyway. You loose respect for the person who takes you back, you almost look at the person like their a punk. Sorry but if you take your man back after cheating he's not gonna stop. You can believe whatever you want to make yourself feel okay with the situation but a cheater gon cheat.

Edited by Becky - Dec 03 2012 at 9:31am