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on the flip side, id be bored if there was always good weather. I like a healthy amount of conflict,  not enough to feel like i should be getting salaried for it.


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Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

why do people say the first year is the hardest? Shouldn't that be the easiest year since you are newly married and still 'hot in love/lust?'


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Originally posted by eanaj5 eanaj5 wrote:

on the flip side, id be bored if there was always good weather. I like a healthy amount of conflict,  not enough to feel like i should be getting salaried for it.

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People watch too many romantic comedies and get things mixed up. If you say to some people well why you with him if he do ______, then you hating and don't let you not have a bf at the time then You a angry lonely bird. When people start discussing their relationship with me my face gets blank and I go to my happy place. It's like you know he cheating, got bad credit, a iffy job and two baby mommas wtf you want me to say ?
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Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

why do people say the first year is the hardest? Shouldn't that be the easiest year since you are newly married and still 'hot in love/lust?'




They married the wrong person cause he asked because of the THIRST of saying I got a huzzzzzband is all.
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LOL at some of these comments.

I honestly don't see anything wrong with changing in a relationship. I think it is healthy and normal. Me and my husband have both changed for the good. I called him out on things and vice versa. We both took a hard look at ourselves and we have both changed in certain areas and its has helped our relationship.Sometimes you don't even realize that you are a certain way that is hurtful or offensive to people. Life is about maturing and we are all constantly changing whether you realize it or not. Sometimes its for the good and sometimes for the bad. 
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Nothing worth having comes easy.
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Its nothing wrong with changing, BUT the person has to respect your opinion enough to care to change and have the motivation and follow through to make it happen. In my mind boyfriend versus husband is different. 

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I remember the last thread on this and what ppl mean when they say work.
All I know is even when I'm mad at him I wouldn't want him anywhere else but beside me.
I think me and him are better together than we are apart tbh

I agree bf vs husband is different .
But I also agree with what Veemack said a while back.
There is a turning point even before your married when he thinks of you as his wife and you think of him as your husband.
It doesn't all begin post nuptials

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Originally posted by Princess Grace Princess Grace wrote:

People watch too many romantic comedies and get things mixed up. If you say to some people well why you with him if he do ______, then you hating and don't let you not have a bf at the time then You a angry lonely bird. When people start discussing their relationship with me my face gets blank and I go to my happy place. It's like you know he cheating, got bad credit, a iffy job and two baby mommas wtf you want me to say ?



ConfusedAre you the poster that had the thread about your man cheating and wanting him to call the other girl? Or am I mistaken?
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