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Originally posted by smaison smaison wrote:

no.
the minute it starts to feel like a second job is the minute i bounce. 

LOL
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Originally posted by smaison smaison wrote:

no.
the minute it starts to feel like a second job is the minute i bounce. 

yup
stress is a killaaaaaaa
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Originally posted by eanaj5 eanaj5 wrote:

Originally posted by smaison smaison wrote:

no.
the minute it starts to feel like a second job is the minute i bounce. 

yup
stress is a killaaaaaaa


word up! I suffered from high BP and anxiety from my last r/s.
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Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

why do people say the first year is the hardest? Shouldn't that be the easiest year since you are newly married and still 'hot in love/lust?'



Everything that year runs high......lust passion and irritation.....for us thats the year we learned each other quirks and learned which battles weren't worth it.....and long relationship take some degree of mutual work imo......whether it be your bf or bff

I agree
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I agree that issues come up that first year that once resolved won't come up again. I just don't think that would be the hardest year. What about year 15 when you've done everything and are maybe getting bored with the person. Year 27 when the body is changing and they don't look the same anymore and can't do things you used to enjoy. Year 45 when you are changing   bedpans?  lol

To me, those would be the 'hard years.'
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Originally posted by trudawg trudawg wrote:

Originally posted by eanaj5 eanaj5 wrote:

Originally posted by smaison smaison wrote:

no.
the minute it starts to feel like a second job is the minute i bounce. 

yup
stress is a killaaaaaaa


word up! I suffered from high BP and anxiety from my last r/s.


oh my. that's not good.

My nephew said he was having medical issues toward the end of his marriage. He was on hbp medication and some other medication (@age 30). After he moved out he said his doc said it was a miraculous recovery. He was taken off both meds soon after.
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 ok. Finally read the article/post (lol) and I'd say this is the gist:

<<It's a big risk to tell your beloved that you've found a deal-breaker in the midst of an established relationship. But consider the alternatives.

Does a relationship need to be a lot of work? Unless you're the type who likes to work on yourself and your relationship all the time, I say no.>>



I think relationships that are a lot of work can succeed if both people think relationships are a lot of work. If one thinks relationships should be easy and calm, that person will probably not be too happy and  bounce LOL because that's not their thing.


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No and if you with the right person it won't be, I will not be changing so if there are things you don;t like I advise people to move on but I accept people at face value and If I don't like what I am facing then I'm out. No hard feelings.

Who has time to keep having these "talks" .
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so you're a bouncer too PG huh

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Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

so you're a bouncer too PG huh

LOL

I am cold with the mess too, I act like they never existed. I don;t understand the thinking that after naming 7,876 things you don't like about a ninja WHY you think that he is the one and after he FIXES at least 7,000 of the things you don't like yall getting married.

Girl Bye. 

Every guy I have dated they THINK they will be the one who is going to change me LOLLOLLOL, so far Men 0 Grace stay winning.
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