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Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

so arguing with you S/O is the automatic provocation then?  i'm glad my bf is sweet as pie.

No...yall know exactly what is going too far.....and thats with anyone.....


what's going too far depends on the people...some people would never hit their s/o regardless of words.  but him sayin that is insinuating that she did something to provoke the attack.  i think most women beaters have a low threshold.  either you're the type to hit a woman or you're not.  how many guys have only hit one woman in their life?  there's typically a history of violence.


I didn't read....I made a general statement.....but you do have men that will have a violent relationship with one woman and never put his hands on another.....but you also have men that will abuse any woman...the ones that aren't consistent with the domestic violence are usually with women that are violent...and that typically have violent relationships.....


if the woman is violent then that changes everything...two damaged ppl who like to punch and fawk.  fetish relationship.
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OK, playing devils advocate cause I don't know if it was ever said what caused the knockout.....but if she spit in his face and he ht her without thinking, is that an excuse? Is there ever a justifiable reason?

I'm asking cause spitting at me as any have said, would make me black out.

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Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Was he trying to say that as a woman you can win a fight with a man so if you feel a situation is getting out of hand don't light a fuse.....try to calm the situation because you safety comes first? I get that....but again I didn't read.


this video is completely out of context


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I don't think I provoked anything when I was abused. My abuser got mad easily, he would snap if I annoyed him. he also would frequently misunderstand what I was saying and not hear me out. He would manipulate my words and get in my face and abuse. Or sometimes he would say something just awful and I would say something back and it would keep going back and forth. I never hit him for saying mean things, I just cried or I left the house. abusers don't need to be provoked, they often provoke themselves. They are controlling and they control what provokes them.


It's funny because the abusers father (an abused himself with a record of domestic violence on his wife-went to court over it and had to take classes) said I was provoking his son when I called him up for help and asked him to talk to his son. he and his son laughed at the situation. It won't matter what you do. I tried not to "provoke". The abuser will find a way to beat you and you will be walking in eggshells.

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I won't say you were provoking him but you have to take responsibility for the fact that you have a habit of picking terrible men....no shade.....
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I didn't view the video btw, it won't show on my phone
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Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Was he trying to say that as a woman you can win a fight with a man so if you feel a situation is getting out of hand don't light a fuse.....try to calm the situation because you safety comes first? I get that....but again I didn't read.


This is what I think he was saying. Look, you know your man and what may be that one thing that will make him lose his head. So chill before it goes there. I don't think he was referring to everyday domestic violence.

Etf: Don't want the grammar/spelling police to get me.

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I'll just observe this one...*sits back and puts feet up*
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^^^^ I'm sorry that happened to you indie. Ouch

I'm not giving that animal the benefit of the doubt......

Maybe he just hit her because he just is an abusive man. Anybody who has ever been with one can vouch for the fact that they RARELY require any provocation. 


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