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Ashleyano 
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 Posted: Dec 19 2012 at 4:00pm |
mine always comes back with a new sob story every year
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Miss SDY
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Posted: Dec 19 2012 at 4:04pm |
 BeatriceBean wrote:
With the ok of the young lady:
He said that she's a wonderful girl and that he cares about her, but he's not in love with her.
And I agree with you all. He made it clear how he feels, she knows, and anything beyond that is a way to waste/fill time and opening the door for even greater heartbreak. Granted, there are relationships that survive after break-ups, but I wouldn't bank on it. |
Honey, if you are reading this thread, then just move on.. He just told you how he felt. You cannot make anyone love you. Moving on isn't easy and you will go through emotions but it is better to move on than to stick around trying to make someone love you when they do not. That is just setting yourself up for more hurt and pain than it is really worth. 
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Posted: Dec 19 2012 at 4:05pm |
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I'd bet the farm
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Ds2nice
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Posted: Dec 19 2012 at 5:15pm |
I've been on both sides of the fence. I had very few boyfriends because each of them i had invested 5+ years of my life. I married an ex....one time i broke up with him and the next time he broke up with me. A few years later, we were friends with benefits. Next- we turned into another bf/gf relationship and then we got married.
It really depends on the situation but from what i read so far, it sounds like the woman should just move on and cut her losses now.
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foxyroy19
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Posted: Dec 19 2012 at 7:36pm |
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If they walk let them go. Close the door and double bolt lock it.
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khivey
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Posted: Dec 19 2012 at 8:22pm |
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Yes..oh goodness yes.
The only thing I'd suggest if she wants to get
back with him is to just have a friendship with him...don't get back
with him and do not become intimate with him. Let him first explain to
you why he broke up with you and why he wants you back...let him know
ya'll can be friends and watch him to see if he shows you he is serious
and isn't about games. I don't know how long the relationship was, but
if it wasn't that long it could be that he honestly doesn't love
her..but may down the line. In any case..just keep it cordial with him
and let it go from there..but if she feels she wouldn't be able to
maintain self control and will become physical..then it is best to not
entertain him.
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Posted: Dec 19 2012 at 10:09pm |
BeatriceBean wrote:
With the ok of the young lady:
He said that she's a wonderful girl and that he cares about her, but he's not in love with her.
And I agree with you all. He made it clear how he feels, she knows, and anything beyond that is a way to waste/fill time and opening the door for even greater heartbreak. Granted, there are relationships that survive after break-ups, but I wouldn't bank on it. |
She need to move on.. Take him for his word and let him be.. If he can tell her that he isn't in love with her, he ,more than likely, never will be.. Can't make some one love you. She need to cut her losses, move on and heal. No more energy should be wasted on him.. At least he was being honest and not proceeding w/ her and hurting her any further.. She will get over it with time.
Edited by EasterBell - Dec 19 2012 at 10:10pm
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Posted: Dec 19 2012 at 10:12pm |
Not mine. only the guys who I've talked to but never dated sexclusively.
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Posted: Dec 19 2012 at 10:12pm |
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they do, but that doesn't mean you should be waiting for them
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Posted: Dec 19 2012 at 10:18pm |
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Oh, tell her not to be friends with him because it won't be genuine because she is hoping to get back with him.. She is going to be in for another blow if he gets another girlfriend. Cut her loses and put her focus elsewhere.. She doesn't need to be sitting around waiting for him to come back because regardless of what is said in here, all exes do not come back.. She may never get to be on that level with him again.. There really is no need for her asking such a question. It's only building false hope and distracting her from what she really needs to be doing, which is starting the process of moving on.. It's hard to let go of a person that you love, but there is really not much you can do if they don't love you back..
Edited by EasterBell - Dec 20 2012 at 9:19am
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