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    Posted: Dec 09 2009 at 5:34pm
Anybody ever dated a pastor or aspiring pastor? What was it like? I was just wondering because I visit a church that had a single pastor and he was fine. I wouldn't even know how to talk to him. I'm probably not holy enough for him. LOL

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Well, i've never been in this position before. But i have a friend who currently is, she's not holy rolly either. lol..

 
I think it can work. Everyone has flaws, even pastors. If you looking for something that leads to marriage..think hard, because men in the ministry...that is a 24/7 job.
 
However, i hope that my future mate is active in the church. Maybe not a pastor but definitely active. The older i get, the more my priorities change and having someone who is about uplifting the kingdom God and our communities, it always a plus in my book.
 
I say go for it!
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despite what you may think, im sure Pastor's like the same thing regular men like. I just got a flashback to that episode of Martin where Pam tried to set Gina up with her cousin who was a Pastor. Hilarious!
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Originally posted by JasonWllms55 JasonWllms55 wrote:

despite what you may think, im sure Pastor's like the same thing regular men like. I just got a flashback to that episode of Martin where Pam tried to set Gina up with her cousin who was a Pastor. Hilarious!


I remember that, wow
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No but from the sermons I've heard on women in the church trying to trap pastors and Lady Conferences on marriage( a big was on the first lady's marriage) it is hard, hard, hard. Regular relationships are hard but they have a total new flip side to their issues, that I never would have guessed about. By the time the sermon was done we had 5 pastor's wives in tears asking God for help. Unhappy
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I will not date a pastor.

However, if I were you, I would see him during his office hours and ask him a biblical question just to gauge how he responds to me.

Just remember that a pastor's wife is usually expected to become a co-pastor of the church etc.
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Originally posted by candies candies wrote:

I will not date a pastor.

However, if I were you, I would see him during his office hours and ask him a biblical question just to gauge how he responds to me.

Just remember that a pastor's wife is usually expected to become a co-pastor of the church etc.
Not really. I know many first ladies that are just that first ladies, nothing more. they are mostly expected to be a rock for their husbands. A pastor's wife is a hard job in itselfConfused


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ive dated several pastors before some were single the other 2 were "married"
but anyways they aight, wasnt my cup of tea though
i felt kind of grimey messing with men who are supposed to be the sheppard of a flock while they steady blowing my back out.
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Originally posted by ilovelife ilovelife wrote:

ive dated several pastors before some were single the other 2 were "married"
but anyways they aight, wasnt my cup of tea though
i felt kind of grimey messing with men who are supposed to be the sheppard of a flock while they steady blowing my back out.
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Originally posted by ilovelife ilovelife wrote:

ive dated several pastors before some were single the other 2 were "married"
but anyways they aight, wasnt my cup of tea though
i felt kind of grimey messing with men who are supposed to be the sheppard of a flock while they steady blowing my back out.
 
 

why the quotes for married? Did the cheating make them less married?

 
 

But honestly I agree with you, I couldn't deal with a person who is of low moral character either, pastor or not. I'd need someone who was true to his own values.
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