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GoodGirlGoneGr8 
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 Posted: Apr 14 2014 at 5:35pm |
 ThatGurlD wrote:
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Forgive my ignorance in advance...
There was a thread a while back where we discussed depression. I remember a few posters stating that it was permanent and that it always comes back...
When depression is onset by a traumatic event such as the loss of a loved one, can it be temporary? If so, how does one differentiate depression from bouts of sadness? |
Maybe in can for some. For me, the intensity just eased. The first two years were utter hell. As a suicide survivor I can say suicide is a tricky death because people don't know what to say or do. You think obviously they wanted to die. You blame yourself. You wonder terrible things like if God will forgive them. The worst part for me is the constant fear of losing someone else I love. My mother has heart failure and has some really bad days where I feel that weight on my chest pressing the air out. I have a wild little brother who gets caught up sometimes but I love him so much and can't bear the thought of losing him.
So to answer the question, I think the depression can ease but the sadness doesn't or at least hasn't for me. It's been 10 years since my sister shot herself in the head. I still get very, very sad. |
I'm really sorry to hear about your sister. Thank you so much for clarifying this...
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Az~Maverick
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Posted: Apr 14 2014 at 5:43pm |
This is why the term "Strong Black Women" needs to be eliminated. It minimizes our pain & other emotional trials and dehumanizes us.
Because at the end of the day, we're all just human. A lot of us may put on a poker face and pretend we're ok, but the reality is.....we all need a shoulder to cry on or some kind of outlet for what we feel and experience.
I know, because I'm one of those people who's looked at as "Strong", when the truth is some days it's a struggle just to get up in the morning and can't wait til the day ends.
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Posted: Apr 14 2014 at 5:50pm |
GoodGirlGoneGr8 wrote:
Forgive my ignorance in advance...
There was a thread a while back where we discussed depression. I remember a few posters stating that it was permanent and that it always comes back...
When depression is onset by a traumatic event such as the loss of a loved one, can it be temporary? If so, how does one differentiate depression from bouts of sadness? |
I beleive the experience is different for different people I had a bout of depression 2 summers ago. I was not suicidal, however I was in a constant state of sadness and despair. I felt like I was in a hole I'd never get out of. I went to therapy and recovered completely, no medication needed. I had depression in conjunction with anxiety. I still have issues related to anxiety every once in a blue blue moon but Im not on medication for that either. Severity plays an important role as well
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Posted: Apr 14 2014 at 6:15pm |
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Wow! That is extremely sad. So young....
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Posted: Apr 14 2014 at 6:17pm |
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Damn. I had heard of the darkskinredlip project but never really looked into it. A damn shame. She seemed to be an inspiration. Rip
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Posted: Apr 14 2014 at 6:20pm |
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IA Az. I hate that term. It's meaning has been totally twisted over the years.
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Posted: Apr 14 2014 at 6:34pm |
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how did she do it?
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Posted: Apr 14 2014 at 7:15pm |
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Az~Maverick wrote:
This is why the term "Strong Black Women" needs to be eliminated. It minimizes our pain & other emotional trials and dehumanizes us.
Because at the end of the day, we're all just human. A lot of us may put on a poker face and pretend we're ok, but the reality is.....we all need a shoulder to cry on or some kind of outlet for what we feel and experience.
I know, because I'm one of those people who's looked at as "Strong", when the truth is some days it's a struggle just to get up in the morning and can't wait til the day ends.
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Posted: Apr 14 2014 at 7:54pm |
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Posted: Apr 14 2014 at 8:22pm |
So sad. Some people have a way of putting on such and air of confidence that others can't tell when they are suffering  . I hope those whose lives she touched can rest in the fact she did a lot of good while she was here.
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