Could u b with a man who had killed another woman?

Umm no..
I'll pass..
She used very bad judgement but she seems like the type that wants to see the good in everyone..
Which nothing is wrong with that but she should have left him where he was. I can't find good in a person who got angry and bashed a woman's head into the floor because she wouldn't stop screaming..

Yeah....no.

PeacefulOne wrote: Buttuh, isn't forgiveness what "Christians" are supposed to do?   Who says we are Christian? That's crap IMO.   So a person NEVER has a soul change?   No.   A person who has had an evil past can't be "saved"?   No. Not for some things. If he was a gambler and blew all his money, or if he stole money becaue he needed drugs ets.. all these sorts or 'character flaws' can be resolved through Rehab.   But losing control such that you rape or beat a woman (or anyone) to death? Noo - now where would you find a 'Murder's Anonymous' group or a 'Rapist  Anonymous group'?   Then that means there are a lot of throw away people. Yes, there are. They need to be send off on some island all by themselves so they can kill each other off - not be around decent folk - so they devastate  more lives.   Another way to look at this is: she being with him may have prevented him from raping and killing a lot MORE women.   No way. This is wishful thinking at best. Do your research about the rate of repeat sexual offenders and men that 'lose control'. This stuff can't be fixed.   But I won't say she's stupid,  she just fell for the wrong guy, and made the mistake of not doing her full research.  I would have had his past as the topic of conversation for a LONG time, and the minute he got screw-eyed at me, I woulda bounced.  She didn't know he was a rapist.   Okay, then I will say it. She was stupid. She said within the first 5 minutes of meeting him - he said he was out of the pen for murder. Newsflash - murder is WORSE that rape. DUH! Stupid. So she knew what she was getting into.   But on that note, NO, I am not that one.  There would have been no second date.  But I am not a "good Christian, sooo . . .

Edited by Becky - Dec 17 2012 at 5:57am

The fact that a man even had it in him to kill.. that's a major red flag. I don't care if that's in the past, it happened.

These kind of crimes of murder and rape are overwhelmingly done by males because this society teaches them that they are entitled to the bodies of women and always have to be in control. For some males, this taught entitlement is so ingrained, they cannot handle it when things do not go their way or when they lose control.

While the average male may resort to insults and slander, no matter how hypocritical, a certain minority of males take it further and resort to rape, violence, or even murder.

That's why it doesn't matter if it's in the past because it happened. The man has it in him to take it that far.

Would you guys date a soldier? A cop?
Does it depend on intent?