Controlling mate

Hello BHM....I have a dilemma. I've been dating this guy for about 3 months now....(yes short period of time i know) But he seems to be controlling, like he doesn't want me to talk to no males unless they are family. Before he came into the picture I was single...and been single for awhile, so I had a few male friends that I converse with here & there. I also had  a male best friend whom I've been friends with for over 20 years that my mate isn't to fond about. But he wants me to cut everyone loose, even holding conversations with my daughters male teacher and so forth. Now don't get me wrong he is a very good guy and I like him a whole lot....but I just think he's not being fair, I mean I only have eyes for him, so if I make cordial conversation with another male he shouldn't trip...but he not only trips...he flips tf out as well. He also has to know every single day what I did, where I went and who all did I talk too or text, he goes thru my phone when I step out the room. and from time to time he might say "don't get f'd up" 

He doesn't seem controlling... He is controlling. You have been only with him for 3 months and he wants to dictate your life. He seems to be the insecure, jealous type and his behaviour will not stop but just get worse. I mean, he has a problem with you talking to your daughter's teacher just because he is a male? It's been three months and please don't invest anymore time in this relationship and move on. You and your daughter deserve better.

Here is a thread about signs of an abusive relationship and he has displayed some of these signs.
http://forum.blackhairmedia.com/vital-information-the-signs-of-abuse_topic351060.html

I wish you all the best!

You should set some boundaries. People will also notice the distance. Before him they would say (not saying you even care what others think) but they would say and see before his time,you talked to them chatted,etc or whatever you did.

jonesable wrote: You already know that this is obsessive.

Right.  Maybe you posted your situation to get a different perspective.   Sounds like you really like this guy and you aren't ready to distance yourself from him despite the huge red flags warning you to let him go.  Be careful, you are on thin ice here.

How do you respond when he flips out?  IMO 3 months is really too early in the relationship to be flipping out about anything. Get out of this relationship before too many more feelings are developed on either side.