| dOLLish. wrote:|
<font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif">I feel like I'm doomed in the relationship department. I come from a family of dysfunctional relationships - and not just intimate relationships. I don't think I know what "good" relationships are, because I've never seen one.
If you think about it, in a sense, you do know what you need/want in a healthy relationship cuz you know you want the opposite of what you saw growing up.
That's how it worked for me. I just used what they had as motivation for what I didn't want.
My grandmother got divorced after three kids, my aunt was killed as a result of domestic violence, one cousin always ended up with men who put their hands on her and verbally abused her, another would give her body to anyone willing to pay her attention, and an aunt who put up with her husband cheating on her just cuz she was raised to believe all men cheat and she'd rather have a husband who did her dirty than not have one at all.
Once I grew up, I knew to avoid men who exhibited signs of being like that so that I wouldn't end up in my female family member's shoes.
You don't have to continue their cycle, Doll. Learn from their mistakes. I wish you the best!