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i disagree.
i dont think you should let them figure it out on their own jess.. especially if you think there might be a developmental disorder or something medically wrong. 

How old are they? If they are literally acting half their age, thats not ok.. they need to get checked out. 

Even if they dont have a disorder though, i believe in letting people make their own mistakes.. but if this is something that has been going on for a long time i just couldnt watch while my siblings ruined their lives.. i would always think back like, maybe i could have done more.. 
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i have so many regrets about things like my grades in highschool and i just wish i would have had someone there so push me and/or knock some sense into me (i dont really have siblings). 

i know it can get frustrating for you but you could be that for them plus more since it seems like also a social thing as well.. 
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Originally posted by coconess coconess wrote:

Even if they dont have a disorder though, i believe in letting people make their own mistakes.. but if this is something that has been going on for a long time i just couldnt watch while my siblings ruined their lives.. i would always think back like, maybe i could have done more.. 


What is she supposed to do? Other than yell, scream, and give herself high blood pressure?

I learned my lesson about trying to save people that don't wanna be saved. Sadly, the only person who'll end up burned is you.

Jess, all you can do a be a listening ear and shoulder to cry on when sh*t in their lives hits the fan. Don't stress yourself over the course they choose. Like janae said, if they won't do it themselves... life will straighten them out.
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I was so thankful for napster i could never bring my self to go and buy any of these songs in my punk get up but i was jamming in my room from time to time



 
 
 
LOL  Still got the CD.  I had the biggest girl crush on Mel B.
 
 
this one had me pumped tho...
 
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Originally posted by Babydoll9163 Babydoll9163 wrote:

Originally posted by coconess coconess wrote:

Even if they dont have a disorder though, i believe in letting people make their own mistakes.. but if this is something that has been going on for a long time i just couldnt watch while my siblings ruined their lives.. i would always think back like, maybe i could have done more.. 


What is she supposed to do? Other than yell, scream, and give herself high blood pressure?

I learned my lesson about trying to save people that don't wanna be saved. Sadly, the only person who'll end up burned is you.

Jess, all you can do a be a listening ear and shoulder to cry on when sh*t in their lives hits the fan. Don't stress yourself over the course they choose. Like janae said, if they won't do it themselves... life will straighten them out.


This. Ppl are hardheaded they dont want to be told what they should be doing. It just makes them rebel and do the opposite. Most ppl have to learn first hand before they try to do better
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i dont think she should yell or scream or anything.. most ppl dont respond well to being yelled at. 
id talk to them and try to understand why theyre choosing this path and show them examples of what can become of them if they continue this way.. 


who were the ppl you tried to save babydoll? if its just some person i completely understand.. but if these are kids and her siblings.. its partially her job as their older sister to help them. even if its hella annoying and frustrating.. she shouldnt give up on them. 
i really would like to know their ages though.. as a big sister she could kind of force them.. or at least get her mom and dad on board to limit the game play and stuff.. 

niecy, not everyone is like that.. they wont all rebel and do the opposite. 
a child does not need to learn first hand before they try to do better.. a parent and or role models guide them. 
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Jess they just need to learn in their own time on their own. What you typed sounded like my younger brother from 10-12 grade. He even got kicked off the football team, the thing he loved more than anything, bc of his grades and he still did t care. He went from being a A-/B student to passing by the skin of his teeth. He's in college now but he had to learn in his own. Some people are just like that. If the parents aren't doing anything, don't stress urself. You're not their parent
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You ever let out a fart and your first thought is "Damn, what did I eat?"

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Originally posted by coconess coconess wrote:

who were the ppl you tried to save babydoll? if its just some person i completely understand.. but if these are kids and her siblings.. its partially her job as their older sister to help them. even if its hella annoying and frustrating.. she shouldnt give up on them. 
i really would like to know their ages though.. as a big sister she could kind of force them.. or at least get her mom and dad on board to limit the game play and stuff..


One of the hardest lessons you learn as the eldest sibling is that you can't tell people what to do or control their actions. It doesn't matter if you see danger flashing a neon sign from a mile away, you can't stop people from going towards it.

Who didn't I try to save? Mostly tried to help family and close friends that I consider family. A few years ago I was a regular captain-save-a-hoe with a bright pank cape flapping in the wind. Like you, I thought if you just talked to them, outlined what could go bad, etc etc. people would chose to do right. Unfortunately curiosity, beliefs of invincibility, and stubbornness get in the way and people do what they want.

How old are you coco? You sound just like me 4 years ago LOL

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Originally posted by coconess coconess wrote:

i disagree.
i dont think you should let them figure it out on their own jess.. especially if you think there might be a developmental disorder or something medically wrong. 

How old are they? If they are literally acting half their age, thats not ok.. they need to get checked out. 

Even if they dont have a disorder though, i believe in letting people make their own mistakes.. but if this is something that has been going on for a long time i just couldnt watch while my siblings ruined their lives.. i would always think back like, maybe i could have done more.. 
They are at the college age.  It's always been like this.  It started going downhill since 2nd grade.

 I've been pushing them (for 10+ years) and trying to make them do better for themselves.  I need to talk to my parents.
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