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Originally posted by nekamarie83 nekamarie83 wrote:

Yes, so I put my best foot forward-- online, offline, familiar, strangers, blah, blah, blah…

However, I don't control others' perception and they will believe what they want. This has been proven.
Originally posted by sbrownie84 sbrownie84 wrote:

Or is it about not giving a damn, being who you are?
As far as this, I've witnessed that people tend to confuse their tactless existences with honesty/being "real"/being bad ass/etc.

One can be thoughtful/respectful/give a damn and still be authentic to self/others. Just sayin.

It presents as defensive, insecure and emotionally exhausting the effort people put into maintaining the facade.

This is me. I don't behave the way people think that I should, so they talk about me. No1curr.

If I act like I don't give a damn about you, its because I don't and I don't even feel like wasting my energy to fake it.

I give nary of a f*ck if my existence is seen as "tactful". I do what I want.

The only people I care about their perceptions of me are my immediate family and my closest friends and even then its limited. Cause at the end of the day I'm still gonna do what I want.
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in my experience, the people who say they dont care, care the most.
I care, but there are times i have have to make myself not care.


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Originally posted by callmeDEva callmeDEva wrote:

I find I'm the happiest when I do what I want, how I want and with my best interests in mind

It can be truly liberating to just walk out your door, head high, not giving two fcuks about anyone's opinions. Can be easier said than done sometimes though


Agreed. The older I get the more I feel this way. But I still care to a certain extent. 
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Benni Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 03 2014 at 6:04pm
Do you really care what others think of you?

Not really, except for my children, parents and sibs


Is acceptance really necessry to form healthy relationships with others?

Yes, acceptance and mutual respect


Or is it about not giving a damn, being who you are?

It's important to be yourself otherwise it's not really you being tolerated and accepted.
You can give a damn if you care enough about the other person, and the things you are doing is not that important to you, and it totally offends the other person
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i always try to do the right thing. even if that means that i must curve folks and black out. i really dont care about what others think. i know that my intent is right. im in trouble with some folks right now and im like, 'tuh'.
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