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Originally posted by CherryCola CherryCola wrote:

Originally posted by Bunnyahh Bunnyahh wrote:

cherry cola, do the brother & sister have the same father??
 
Remember Boys N the Hood & Jason's Lyric???
 
Oh, you're right about that.
 
No.  They don't have the same father.  They have different fathers.  The brother and sister are half siblings.  They have the same mother but different fathers.
I knew it.  mom prolly resents the son's dad & likes the daughter's dad.  idk what to tell you, get him involved in Big Brother Big Sisters or some other type of mentoring program that will be a positive influence
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Originally posted by Bunnyahh Bunnyahh wrote:

Originally posted by CherryCola CherryCola wrote:

Originally posted by Bunnyahh Bunnyahh wrote:

cherry cola, do the brother & sister have the same father??
 
Remember Boys N the Hood & Jason's Lyric???
 
Oh, you're right about that.
 
No.  They don't have the same father.  They have different fathers.  The brother and sister are half siblings.  They have the same mother but different fathers.
I knew it.  mom prolly resents the son's dad & likes the daughter's dad.  idk what to tell you, get him involved in Big Brother Big Sisters or some other type of mentoring program that will be a positive influence
 
That's a good idea.  Thanks, Bunnyahh.
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Yes i think so. This is the root problem to all my issues with my parents. Out of three kids, im the youngest and only girl. My brothers were always treated better, particularly the middle child. It made me build up a lot of resentment towards them. I never listened to them either. Why be good when you're treated like sh!t?
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Originally posted by CherryCola CherryCola wrote:

Originally posted by TiffanyinTX TiffanyinTX wrote:

Yes definitely, I got treated a lot better by my mother in an attempt to gain her favor (also, I was the youngest and only girl). Not only did this not make me like her any more, but it only made me resent her further when I got older and realized that her unfair treatment had a role in spoiling and ruining my character. I know she didn't favor me to make me conceited about myself, but with power comes responsibility. It's a strong person to not abuse the privilege of special treatment.

When I got older I had a lot of people blaming stuff on me because I was always the "favorite" but the way I look at is: my mom may have given me special treatment but at the end of the day she still wasn't doing me any favors, because all she gave me was inflated self-worth when what I really needed was humility and discipline.  Deep in my heart I believe everyone should be treated equally, but hey I didn't tell my parents to be weak-willed or just give in to my demands like that.

My brothers both bear the psychological scars of the mistreatment and abuse. And then you have a spoiled, rotten kid who you claim you had no role in raising because they "always got they're way". Yeah your  kid may be a  brat, but you're kind of weak-willed too. 
 
But my point is that the spoiled sister turned out to be great.  The brother who was not spoiled is the one who turned out to be a bully and a criminal because he was neglected.  I would rather have a spoiled child than a neglected child who turns into a bully and a criminal.


Well my experience totally turned out the opposite way in the sense that it  backfired but from a certain perspective I can see your cousins point. Let's say you have two kids:

Kid A: Grows up in a privileged, comfortable environment with two stable loving parents who take a humanistic approach-they see their child as special and planned for their birth. From the beauty pageants to the softball tryouts Kid A's parents are always in their corner and have looked forward to their birth with enthusiasm for the traditions they would get to teach their child. Should Kid A decide to go to college, they might even have an allowance set up for them, all to make sure their precious child makes a successful transition into the adult world with ease

Kid B: Maybe Kid B's parents did not expect to have them or did not have the savings to provide their child with such comfort. Maybe they take their stress out on Kid B, in the form of neglect, or even abuse. Maybe Kid B's parents are just average.

In the absence of monetary and parental differences, which child do you think has the best chance of becoming an emotionally healthy functional adult?

Kid A. From the moment of conception on, they've been getting the message that their existence was a welcome and wanted existence on earth. Of course that kid is more functioning.
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hellz yea showin favoritism will do some harm, dats whats wrong with moi lol.  
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obviously.  are you stupid?
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It definitely has an impact. Every parent has a favorite, they just shouldn't be so obvious with it.
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I totally agree ^^^
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Originally posted by BarackStar2.0 BarackStar2.0 wrote:

obviously.  are you stupid?
 
Obviously, I think so as well.  I stated an example of the damage (about my two cousins), but I wanted to get other people's point of view or opinion about the topic on the discussion forum.


Edited by CherryCola - Aug 20 2012 at 3:34pm
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Originally posted by Bunnyahh Bunnyahh wrote:

usually when ppl have kids by multiple baby mommas or daddies, favortism happens.
 
yes it affects the kids.  oh well blame the parents & pro-lifers
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