I know this is should be posted in the "relationship" section but that section is too general..
So basically my fiancé and I have been together for 3 years. He;s white. When he met me, I was wearing those braids;
Because of the stress on my edges (and me being bored)
I started experimenting with half wigs and lace wigs.
When I first started, my hair looked a HOT MESS
But as I started hanging out in this forum and learning new techniques, I feel like my hair looks pretty natural
I feel like my applications have become more and more natural and even my own mom (who hates wigs) tells me that it looks nice on me. I'm doing this wigs thing until my hair becomes a long enough length for me to start wearing my own hair out.
Well, whenever he sees me, he'll look at my hairline and be like "Is that your real hair?" And I'll be like "No..." and then he'll do this sigh or this little disapproving grunt. Or he'll point out "It looks unnatural"..and I'll feel all self-conscious. He doesn't like me in cornrows or wearing a stocking cap at night...none of it.
Its been really getting to me because it makes me feel stupid about wearing them in the first place no matter how confident I am around other people. I've tried explaining through youtube videos and bringing him to black beauty supply stores about my hair textures and tried so much times to explain how our hair grows (washing, textures, weaves, wigs etc...)
So basically we got into YET another argument last night because he said that he doesn't approve of me wearing wigs and says he doesn't want to encourage me "hiding myself". (He's seen my natural hair btw)
Not to throw all my personal business out there but basically its been REALLY getting at me and makes me feel really self-conscious (Chris Rock style) about my natural hair growth journey...
So I broke off our engagement because I don't feel beautiful and completely accepted around him. Its not cool to be feeling all fly around others and by myself and then feel this judgemental scrutiny around the guy who's supposed to love me no matter what.
Has anyone else encountered the same problem with a bf/husband? How did you deal.
To some, this might feel petty but I just was tired of feeling like he was always looking down upon me for "doing my thang". In my opinion, men should just shut up and say "you look nice babe!"
Thanks for reading. Makes me feel slightly better even just writing this out.